Salaam Ramadan !

Ramadan is a holy and sacred month for Muslims. It is one of the five pillars of Islam. There are some things I would like to share about ramadan with all of you.

In this month the Muslims feel the pain and hardships of poor people.
Ramadan comes once every year. Ramadan comes every year at different dates because of the lunar calendar. As the dates change so does the length of the fast. A fast starts after the fajar azaan, before sunrise and ends at maghrib azaan, after the sun sets. In ramadan Muslims all over the world abstain from eating, drinking, immoral behaviour, bad deeds and having sexual relations during their fast.
Waking up before sunrise to eat something which would make you full enough to spend the whole fast with that food is called sehri. Some people don’t do sehri at all and spend the whole fast on their dinner and some get up early and eat. But all have to close their fast before hearing the fajar azan with a sehri prayer.
Muslims don’t eat anything at all during their fast neither they drink anything not even water. Neither they use foul language or get angry as it against to do such in ramadan.
As Islam has a flexibility for children, women, older people and ill people so it happens in ramadan as well. Fasting is not obligatory to the children who haven’t reached adolescence yet. The same goes for pregnant women and ill people. Women in their time of the month are also exempted from fasting for only those days. No one forces you to fast although it is farz in Islam to fast once you reach puberty but no one does and can force the other to fast as forcing the religion is not permissible in Islam. But if the children want to fast, the adults let them fast for half day and call it a mock half day fast.
Eating, drinking or having sexual relation during your fast invalidates it.

Muslims open their fast on maghrib azaan, it’s called iftar, with an iftar prayer and start with a date usually or they can open with anything sweet. Then they can eat anything they want to till sehri again.

After iftar they have an additional prayer called tarawih. The whole Quran is being recited in tarawih within a month. Gents offer tarawih at mosque in congregation and the ladies can do it either at mosques or at their homes.
At then end of ramadan Muslims are rewarded in the form of eid for fasting for one month and staying away from all the bad deeds.
I’ll discuss eid in some other article. I hope you find this article informative.

A thing of beauty is not joy for everyone !

Don’t you love a new baby and feel like holding him? No doubt babies are a beautiful blessing from God. Some people get way more excited like over the moon for having one and think their life got perfect after the new addition to the family. Then there are women who get deeply depressed after having a baby which makes then unable to bond with their new baby. Its not something we WANT to feel but some of us feel it anyway.
I had my first baby 22 months ago through a normal delivery and I thought after having him I would be the happiest, my life would be perfect. I would love my baby more than anything else. My baby boy was born at 5pm . I was so happy to see him for the first time. I touched him and kissed him. I loved looking at my little bundle of joy. But things took a drastic turn for me the next day when I took him home with me.

He was a very difficult baby to start. He did not sleep at night and even in the day time our whisper was enough to wake him up. I could not sleep at all. Every time I try to sleep his cries would wake me up. On the other hand I was not willing to let anyone do his work. I would check his diaper a million times. Even if he was asleep at times I could not make myself sleep. I would never leave my house without him pooping. If he poops again outside I would panic so much that people around me got anxiety themselves.
I was stressed beyond limits. I was seriously thinking of giving him to someone who would take care of him and needed a baby. In my mind I was sure that “this baby has made my life difficult and he is the reason of my sadness and unable to enjoy any occasion or anything at all”.

Most of the time I was sad and crying. My baby was not bonding with me neither I was feeling attached to my baby like a mother should. He would cry his lungs out after my touch and I was not able to calm him down. My mom or my husband helped me but still I was not enjoying MOTHERHOOD. It still hurts me to think of my reaction towards my baby after his cries. Breastfeeding him was a nightmare for me. I was feeling bound. I was taking care of my baby as if it was part of my job, just do the task without any feeling. I totally neglected my appearance.
I shared my feelings with my mom but she told me to keep it together and helped me with everything. She would make me meet other moms and they shared their motherhood experiences saying that it’s normal. My mom counselled me about motherhood and I shared everything with her. Then my husband helped me deal with these issues.
I got out of this phase after 9 months of my baby’s birth and started enjoying my life with my baby. My mom and my husband helped me get out of that phase. I did not know why I was feeling like this and what is this disorder. Most of the new mothers don’t know it either. I thought I should educate them from my personal experience so they could relate to it and get help.
After some time I got to know about POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION and I was glad to know that I got out of it with the help of my loved ones. So yes postpartum depression is real and it eats the mind of the new mother.
If any of you out there is going through this phase or know someone who is, please help her out because she needs help.
Help her out with her baby, encourage her to talk about her feelings. Take her out more often. Support her. Always always take her to a counsellor if things don’t get better otherwise her situation might get worse.
I hope you find this article helpful.

Mothers, the unpaid labours

Labours day is a holiday when we honour the working men and women around the world for their services. Every working person thinks of it as a day off, to relax and to enjoy, gather their energy. But there are some labours which work 24/7 even on a labours day and they don’t even get paid for it in cash. No doubt they get paid in the form of unconditional love but no money for the hard work they do neither they ever demand anything in return. Yes, all of you must have guessed by now. I am talking about a MOTHER. A strong women who works round the clock and without any break. A mother doesn’t even get paid for the services she provides. They have the most toughest job in the world. She sacrifices her sleep, peace and time, everything for her children. She is always on duty working and is always available for her children.
On labour day when everyone waits for the holiday and enjoys it, there are mothers still working and giving time to their children. On this labours day we all should be grateful of such mothers who are raising a whole new generation and helping us build a better tomorrow without demanding anything in return preforming the biggest duty.
On this labours day I want to thank all of the mothers for the hard labour you do. I salute all the mothers on this labours day for their unpaid services, their sacrifices and their efforts. Happy labours day ! Xoxo

Genuine simple ways to lose weight

Weight loss is a very big problem for us ladies these days specially mommies and so many websites on the internet suggest such harmful methods and ways to lose weight that I had to come up with this topic. Diet can never let you keep your weight off for a very long time so dieting is not the answer to weight loss problem.
There is always healthy ways of doing certain things and weight loss is one of them. I will talk about genuine ways to lose weight efficiently and maintain it for like forever ! So let’s get started and share my knowledge with you guys.

Add flaxseeds in your diet

Flaxseeds are proven to speed up the weight loss. They contain fibre which keeps you feeling full.

Drink more water

Water keeps your hydrated and full for a very long time. It actually helps you lose weight by burning the calories for an hour after you drink water. Drinking water before and between meals also reduce your calorie intake. But NEVER drink water after you are done with your meal for at least half an hour.

Eat an apple everyday

As we know “An apple a day keeps the doctor away”. There must be some truth to this fact. Apple contains a special fibre called pectin that slows down digestions and keeps you full for a very long time. Hence, curbing your food cravings.

Add more proteins to your diet

Any food with high protein keeps you full for longer periods of time thus reducing your appetite. A protein diet boosts your metabolism and helps in burning more calories. Almonds, lean meat, poultry, cheese, yogurt, dairy, fish, beans, eggs and soy products have a high quantity of protein.

Take more vitamin D

Vitamin D aids in weight loss and decrease body fat. According to some researches, people with a high BMI have low level of vitamin D in their body. Mushrooms, salmons, oysters, cod liver oil, egg yolks are rich in vitamin D. You can also take vitamin D supplements.

Reduce your food intake of carbohydrated foods

After you reduce your carb intake, your body will gradually shed the water weight first and then it will start burning the calories and fats.
Don’t drink carbohydrated drinks, consume less bread, eat less potatoes, drink coconut or almond milk.

Say NO to processed food

Processed foods lack vitamins, proteins, fibres. They have a high sugar, sodium and fat content and increase your cholesterol level. All frozen, canned, baked and dried foods are processed foods. Cheese, cereals, microwave meals, ready meals, cakes, biscuits, and savoury snacks.

Add more fruits and vegetables to your diet

Fruits and vegetables are a healthy source of food. They keep you fresh and control your cholesterol too. They are rich in nutrients, vitamins, fibres and water. Fruits and vegetables are considered as good for weight loss. People who eat fruits and vegetables daily are comparatively healthier.

Add green tea in your daily regimen

Flavonoids in green helps speed up your metabolism and burn fat. It also helps in losing belly fat which is what people want most of the time. So enjoy the benefits of green tea by daily drinking it.
Avoid sugar
Sugar is as addicted is cocaine. It causes excessive weight gain and leads to other diseases as well. Sugar in every form is dangerous.

Use coconut oil more

Coconut oil speeds up your metabolism and burns your calories thus aiding in weight loss.

Take probiotics

Probiotics have lactobacillus and studies have shown that strains of lactobacillus burn belly fat and helps to lose weight. Yogurt is a probiotic which is good for burning belly fat.

Eat more fibres

Fibres keeps you full for a longer period of time, lowers your cholesterol and normalizes your blood sugar levels. Some fibre rich foods are pumpkins, chickpeas and apples.

Take whey protein supplement

Whey protein supplement reduces your appetite and burns fat causing you to lose weight.

Do cardio

Cardio exercises work very well for weight loss. You can start with a little walk first and then move to other exercises.

Watch less Television

Spend your time on televisions less because that’s how we end up eating more

Make a schedule

Make a daily routine schedule and follow it. Sleep early as eating late at night makes you gain weight more.

Eat healthy

One of the key factor of gaining weight is eating junks, which is not a healthy form of food. Eat vegetables, fruit, nuts etc.

Hope my article can help you people. Don’t forget to follow, like and share. Stay tuned for more. Xoxo