What do women really want?

The great question that has never been answered and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is “What does a woman want?”
—Sigmund Freud

Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the colour nine.
—Will Ferrell

STEPHEN HAWKING, the legendary astrophysicist and a man who has solved some of the most complex mysteries of the universe, was asked what it is he thinks about most. His answer was not very surprising. Which scientific puzzle confounds the genius of Hawking? “Women,” he said. “They are a complete mystery.”

If Hawking, Freud, and Ferrell, two of the greatest scientists and one of the funniest comics of our time, can’t understand women, what hope is there for the average guy? How is he to muddle through the perplexing universe that is Woman? The first thing you need to know in order to unravel this mystery is simple: All women are unique.

That’s right, every last one of them is special. Ultimately, the goal is not to become the world’s greatest lover, or boyfriend, or husband, but to become the world’s greatest lover, boyfriend, or husband of your particular partner. In short, listen to your partner. Her truth is really the only truth that matters. Yet this article will help you accelerate the learning curve, because it also reveals that women possess aspects in common in how they play, work, dream, and love, and those are the secrets I want to share with you. The second thing you need to know is that it is not as complicated as you think.

Imagine you are a tourist in a foreign land, and this book is your guided tour of the heart and mind—and, oh yeah, body—of that sovereign state. Like when visiting any foreign land, you want to be prepared—read the travel advisories, pack the right equipment, study the language, and learn as much as you can about the culture, the history, and the customs. Total immersion. You also want to learn the laws of the land; you should know what constitutes a crime and what the penalties are. No one wants to end up in prison in a foreign country. The Land of Women is no exception.

The One Thing All Women Look for in a Man
What is the number one thing that women are looking for in a man? Six-pack abs? Six-figure bank account? A tall, handsome man riding a white horse? No, no, and no. The number one thing women look for is simply this: trustworthiness. That’s right, trustworthiness.
Trustworthiness isn’t just about whether or not you are a player or, if you’re in a long-term relationship, whether or not you’ve ever been unfaithful. Although those things are fundamental and important to trustworthiness, they are not enough.
What trustworthiness looks like in dating and marriage is this: You are who you say you are and you do what you say you are going to do. It’s about reliability, accountability, and showing up just as you are. Being trustworthy is not just about safeguarding a woman’s body or her children. It’s about safeguarding her heart, as well.

The Two Major Complaints That Women Have
The first complaint is: “He is never there for me.” The second complaint is: “There isn’t enough intimacy and connection.” These women feel alone even when they are in a relationship. In many ways, these are related complaints. These women cannot trust their men to be there for them when they need them. Most of the time, this is about being there for them emotionally: listening to them, caring for them, and safeguarding their hearts.

A Tune-Up
Women want men who are there for them when they need them. They want men who are interested in them and who care about them. Woman need to feel respected, heard, and connected.
So where can you buy a can of attunement? You can’t. But you can learn it. It’s not complex. It’s not rocket science. And it has a handy acronym, so the next time you’re with a woman you can think: Just A-TT-U-N-E.

ATTEND

Give your undivided attention when it’s needed. This means that if a woman wants to talk to you, turn off the game, put away your cell phone, and show by your actions that you care about her and about what she is saying. Even if it is the minutiae of her day or something that seems unimportant to you, it is important to her and is a request for connection. If you are on a date, direct your attention to the woman you are with. No scanning the room, no checking out other women, no texting your buddies during dinner. Attention equals affection. Attention ultimately is how you express love.

TURN TOWARD
This is not a metaphor or a new age expression. Physically. Turn. Toward. Your. Partner. Women equate intimacy with conversation that is face-to-face and eyeball-to-eyeball. Unless you and your woman are about to take down a buffalo, turn toward her while you talk.

UNDERSTAND
No matter what she is saying, the goal is understanding. And how you get to understanding is by asking questions. If the woman in your life is complaining about her best friend, don’t offer a solution, don’t try to distract her, don’t think of how you can “fix” the problem, don’t make jokes, and don’t minimize the problem. Ask questions about what she is feeling and what it all means to her. This part of attuning is not about saying “I understand”; it’s about showing genuine interest and attempting to understand why this is important to her. Whether she is complaining about her mother, frustrated with her boss, or pissed off at you—let understanding be your goal.

NONDEFENSIVELY LISTEN

If you are paying attention, turning toward her, and seeking understanding, you are well on your way down the path of nondefensive listening. This is especially important if what a woman is talking about or is upset about is you. Don’t react. No one likes to be criticized or feel like they are under attack. But the tricky thing is, if you counterattack, make excuses, justify, or argue, you are only going to be criticized more. Don’t interrupt and don’t forget that any feeling is fact to the person feeling it. Whether or not you agree with her reactions or how she sees reality, her feelings are real to her in that moment.

EMPATHIZE
For those of you thinking you’ve already covered this with the whole “understanding” thing, think again. Understanding is an intellectual pursuit, while empathy is an emotional pursuit. Try to feel how a woman is feeling, even it seems illogical to you. Try to put yourself in her shoes and then think.
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Play on the one string you have – Your Attitude

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more become more than you ever dreamed. You have greatness within you … and your attitude is the key to unlocking that potential. Changing my attitude changed my life. And if a better attitude can work miracles in my life, it can work miracles in yours!

I’d like to share with you these words from Dr. Charles Swindoll, who captured the essence of attitude—and how it dominates the direction of our lives.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a group … a community… a home. You can follow some of these points to change your attitude too.
1. Success begins in the mind
2. You should watch your words
3. Stop complaining
4. Associate with positive people
5. Confront your fears and grow
6. Get out there and fail
7. Keep trying till you accomplish your goal
8. Turn your problems into opportunities
9. Take active steps to change your dreams into reality
10. The power of attitude can change your destiny.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past … we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes.
Pretty powerful words, aren’t they? Do what Charles Swindoll suggests and “play on the one string you have”—your ATTITUDE.
Now is the time to take control of your attitude.

Now is the time to start creating miracles in your own life.
Go ahead—believe in yourself. Have the courage and persistence to follow your dreams. And above all, never, never forget that … Attitude is Everything!

You season 2 – Review

To catch up on what happened in YOU season 1, read my season 1 review here

You Season 1 – Review

So I just finished season two in two days. Let me just say that it is very much worth the watch. Season two gets better and shines more light into Joe’s childhood. Things make more sense but let me tell you that this show definitely is not a light hearted show. It’s dark in an alluring way.

The story is so good.
The lead character, Joe Goldberg (Penn Badgley), walks you through everything he’s thinking while the show goes on, which lets you know how much of a psychopath he is.

He does seem to have a soft spot for children, whom he cares for and tries to protect, as he needed to be as a child.

Every episode leaves you on the edge of wanting to know what happens next and hardly ever you will find yourself scrolling your cellphone from boredom.

After his pre-Beck ex Candace (Ambyr Childers) turns up, very much alive and aware of his crimes, Joe flees to Los Angeles; the perfect hiding spot because it’s the last place he wants to be. There, Joe gets a new name (Will), a new life (ok, he’s still a bookstore employee, but now it’s at a hippie chic LA health store called Anavrin, aka Nirvana spelled backwards), and, of course, a new obsession.

There he meet Love Quinn (Victoria Pedretti) and falls into the same pattern he did with Beck but this time Joe thinks it will be different and he will be a better man so the bad things he does for her can be excused because she makes him want to do “good”.

No matter how far he moves, nor how fast he moves on to a new woman, Joe cannot escape the violent deeds of his past. Joe is unable to run away from his crimes against Beck just as he was unable to escape what he did to Candace.

Love Quinn is just as willing to kill for love as Joe, in fact, recognizing their kindred darkness is what drew her to him.

She’s spent the season manipulating events and playing him as much as he has her.

The season ends with them together, and Joe trapped in an even worse hell with Love being pregnant and willing to do anything for their relationship even like murdering someone to save their relationship.

The twist at the ending shocked me. I was not ready for what happened but in a good way. I was also sad to find out about some way things ended for some characters and their deaths but love the way how things turned out. Love is possibly even more unhinged than Joe, and unlike him, she’s actually a methodical and competent killer who knows exactly how to take down her prey.

Season 2 had some amazing character development and completely unbelievable, as well unexpected twists. The series serves as a highly binge-able, very modern thriller.

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Marriage Story – Netflix Review

Marriage Story is a 2019 American comedy-drama film written, directed and produced by Noah Baumbach. It stars Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver, with Laura Dern, Alan Alda, Ray Liotta, Azhy Robertson, Julie Hagerty, Merritt Wever, and Wallace Shawn in supporting roles. The film follows a married couple (Johansson and Driver) going through a coast-to-coast divorce. I thought it was great, though it should really be called Divorce Story.

The acting is fantastic and the overall plot is strong. This movie’s commitment to realism really sells it and the message I got from it was valuable. It’s not a feel good movie. It’s a movie that will bring emotions out of you, emotions you were never aware you had. It’s a movie about fatherhood and motherhood. It’s a movie about togetherness and separation.
This film is about a unique feeling, the feeling that depicts, the volatile state of mind when your are about to or you have already left something behind, that you care and still sometimes get the hang of that it could have worked in some other way!
Movies such as this only are made once or twice in a decade. I will give the director, writer, cast and crew full credit for creating something that has left such profound feeling of disparity, sorrow, grief and anger, yet, at the same time, you feel connected to all the characters. You would want to pick sides, but you won’t be able to. That’s the beauty of this movie. Unlike Kramer vs Kramer, where you clearly are rooting for Ted, or in A Separation, where you empathise with what Simin is going through, Marriage Story will leave you pondering about the reality of the separation. This movie covers a couple going through a divorce and pulls no punches about the hardship of all of it.

The core issue is that the breadwinner is Charlie and his wife Nicole wants to move from NY to LA to get a part in a show. Charlie elects to stay in NY and continue directing his successful broadway plays. Both parties here are selfish.

Nicole is willing to uproot her child and throw away her marriage because of a dream. Charlie is willing to let this happen and lose his son because of his dream. They are both selfish and equally responsible for their failed marriage. Nicole is not in love anymore, she is happy that she had to courage to leave Charlie and stand up for herself.

The couple split amicably with no lawyers but eventually, Nicole hires a high priced lawyer and takes it to court. By the end Charlie is destitute, losing his company, and losing his son. In the end, Nicole allows him to have his son over for an extra night and he thanks her sincerely. Charlie thanks her for allowing him to see his son- this is supposed to be sweet but to me it is horrifying.

Nicole took all of Charlie’s money, his business, his dreams, and his son and then throws him scraps and we are suppose to think she is a good person? I refuse to think this. She is a bitter person that put her son and husband through hell for petty revenge.
I guess this is where the film lost me and gained me. I despise Nicole by the end despite the attempts of the movie but I respect its commitment to realism.
A beautiful film, and magnificent job by Noah Baumbach (the director).

What is leaving netflix in 2020?

Netflix loses it’s movies and seasons every year because of it’s licensing deals. So here are all of the movies and seasons you won’t be able to stream on netflix in 2020.

SEASONS

• Vampire diaries (Season 1 – 8)
• Grimm (Season 1 – 6 )
• Weeds (Season 1 – 8)
• 12 monkeys (Season 1 – 3)
• Spartacus (Season 1 – 4)
• La Reina del Sur (Season 1)
• Maron (Season 1 – 4)

MOVIES

• 16 Blocks (2006)
• 187, aka One Eight Seven (1997)
• The 24 Hour War (2016)
• About a Boy (2002)
• Across the Universe (2007)
• Æon Flux (2005)
• Alice Doesn’t Live Here Anymore (1974)
• AlphaGo (2017)
• American History X (1998)
• American Psycho (2000)
• An American Tail (1986)
• An American Tail: Fievel Goes West (1991)
• An American Tail: The Mystery of the Night
• Monster (1999)
• An American Tail: The Treasures of Manhattan Island (2000)
• Balto (1995)
• Balto 2: Wolf Quest (2001)
• Balto 3: Wings of Change (2004)
• Billy Elliot (2000)
• Black Hawk Down (2001)
• Blood Diamond (2006)
• The Book of Eli (2010)
• The Brave One (2007)
• The Bucket List (2007)
• Butterfield 8 (1960)
• Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (1958)
• Chappie (2015)
• Christmas Break-In (2019)
• Christmas with the Kranks (2004)
• The Cincinnati Kid (1965)
• Class Act (1992)
• Cleopatra Jones (1973)
• Cloud Atlas (2012)
• Cool Hand Luke (1967)
• The Crow (1994)
• Dad (1989)
• Daddy Day Care (2003)
• The Dark Crystal (1982)
• Deep Blue Sea (1999)
• Enter the Dragon (1973)
• Evan Almighty (2007)
• Executive Decision (1996)
• Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas (1998)
• The Flintstones (1994)
• The Flintstones in Viva Rock Vegas (2000)
• Forbidden Planet (1956)
• Forks Over Knives (2011)
• Fracture (2007)
• Good Luck Chuck (2007)
• Gosford Park (2001)
• Grease (1978)
• Happy Hunting (2017)
• Hum Aapke Hain Koun (1994)
• Hum Saath-Saath Hain (1999)
• Hurricane Bianca (2016)
• The Informant! (2009)
• Inkheart (2008)
• The In-Laws (2003)
• Jackie Brown (1997)
• Justin Bieber: Never Say Never (2011)
• Knowing (2009)
• Lady in the Water (2006)
• The Lake House (2006)
• Leap Year (2010)
• Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels (1998)
• Lolita (1962)
• The Long Kiss Goodnight (1996)
• Love & Basketball (2000)
• Maine Pyar Kiya (1989)
• Malcolm X (1992)
• Mean Streets (1973)
• Mona Lisa Smile (2003)
• Mr. Woodcock (2007)
• Mutiny on the Bounty (1962)
• Mystic River (2003)
• National Lampoon’s Loaded Weapon 1 (1993)
• No Reservations (2007)
• Now and Then (1995)
• Ocean’s Eleven (1960)
• Open Season (2006)
• The Pelican Brief (1993)
• Panic Room (2002)
• Penelope (2006)
• The Pink Panther (2006)
• Pulp Fiction (1994)
• The Queen of the Damned (2002)
• R.L. Stine’s Mostly Ghostly (2008)
• Rain Man (1988)
• Rebel Without a Cause (1955)
• Revolutionary Road (2008)
• Rocky (1976)
• Rocky II (1979)
• Rocky III (1982)
• Rocky IV (1985)
• Rocky V (1990)
• Rumor Has It… (2005)
• Sanai Choughade (2008)
• Schindler’s List (1993)
• Short Term 12 (2013)
• Something’s Gotta Give (2003)
• Space Cowboys (2000)
• Sparkle (1976)
• Spy Kids 2: The Island of Lost Dreams (2002)
• Starsky & Hutch (2004)
• Super Fly, aka Superfly (1972)
• Supergirl (1984)
• Superman Returns (2006)
• Surf’s Up (2007)
• Tears of the Sun (2003)
• The Fighter (2010)
• The Rezort (2015)
• The Time Traveler’s Wife (2009)
• Troy (2004)
• Unaccompanied Minors (2006)
• The Water Horse: Legend of the Deep (2007)
• Wet Hot American Summer (2001)
• White Christmas (1954)
• Who’s That Knocking at My Door (1967)
• Winter’s Bone (2010)
• xXx (2002)
• xXx: State of the Union (2005)
• Zombieland (2009)

*This list is not for every region.

You Season 1 – Review

“You” Season 2 premieres Dec. 26 on Netflix. So here is the review of it’s season 1.

“YOU” is an American psychological thriller series developed by Greg Berlanti and Sera Gamble. The first season is based on the eponymous 2014 novel titled YOU by Caroline Kepnes.
“YOU” is a show that most certainly captures the essence of the complexity of love and the lengths that some are able to go for it. It is undoubtedly thrilling, keeping me stressed out about what will happen next. It’s also incredibly good at warming ones heart. You’ll find yourself both loving Penn Badgley as Joe (protagonist), and his kind heart and selflessness, but also hating his guts.
“You do bad things for the people you love but it doesn’t mean it’s right. It is because love is more important” . This is what Joe, the main character in the series, said to a little kid after he did something ‘bad’. It somehow sums up what the series is all about.

It could be love that drawn Joe (Penn Badgley), a bookstore manager to Beck (Elizabeth Lail), a struggling new writer after he first saw her at the bookstore.

After a series of barely ignorable stalking from Joe, the series started like your usual cheesy romantic story but it turns out creepy and bloody as it continues to unravel before your eyes. Yes it could be love or could it be addiction?
In a sense the show is nothing less than breath-taking. The cinematography and acting are also great.
However the flaws that are causing me to wonder whether my time spent watching this show was worth it are a few poor plot decisions, some pretty unrealistic scenarios, and a pretty terrible ending. While Joe is a stalker, the lengths that he goes to, and things he’s able to get away with, are unnervingly unrealistic. He sneaks his way into houses to watch people, literally tip-toeing around them. Realistically he would most DEFINITELY, been seen or heard. And more importantly no one would go to these lengths to stalk someone. His relationship with Beck, the main love interest, is very enthralling and profound, yet it feels like it was dragged on until the very end of the season for no reason. Seriously. The writer(s) even made them take a little break for two episodes just so they could prolong the season which ended incredibly anticlimactically. They have already milked the hell out of the whole “look at me I’m a murderer who can’t be caught” thing, and realistically he would have most definitely been caught for at least a few of them. The murdering spree is basically definitely going to be continued based on the way the first season ended. He killed what seemed to be the love of his life, eliminating the intimacy and real ness between the two that had been building through the whole season, which leaves me with little excitement for the second season.
All in all, this series had me pretty interested throughout its entirety, and if you’re looking for a show that hits both the categories of a romance and a thriller/horror, then this one does so pretty adequately.

Few unrealistic details and a plot that could use some work but if you’ve got the time I’d definitely recommend giving it a watch.

The Witcher- Netflix review

The Witcher is a Polish-American fantasy drama web television series created by Lauren Schmidt Hissrich for Netflix. It is based on the book series of the same name by Polish writer Andrzej Sapkowski. The series premiered on Netflix on December 20, 2019.
The characters and storyline managed to grip me throughout the entire season and I enjoyed every minute of it. The casting seemed almost perfect and now, some of the characters seem like they could never be acted by anyone else.
The storyline might seem confusing and wild at first and takes time to figure out and connect with it but once I did, I loved it. I came to realize that this wildness and difference from any other show is what makes it The Witcher – and I didn’t come to watch a remake of game of thrones, so I loved it. They delve into excellent and unique ideas and plots that make the show something definitely worth watching.

The strength of this series really relies on the cast and the writers. It is truly refreshing to see a group of people who all seem to really love what they’re doing and be putting so much effort into their performances.

Henry Cavill is spectacular as the iconic Geralt of Rivia and expands on previous iterations of the character, making the role his own while still staying true to all the aspects that makes the character so great.

He does an amazing job in his role and his performance was one of the focal points that I enjoyed in the show.

The supporting characters and two other leads (Anya Chalotra as Yennefer of Vengerberg and Freya Allen as Princess Cirilla) all bring this fantasy world to life with very real performances that remind us that they don’t have to be saving the world from an apocalyptic danger for their stories to hold true dramatic weight, and that’s also a testament to the great writing this series has.

The backdrop of conquest, war, and apocalyptic prophecy was well balanced with Geralt’s daily routine of monster hunting, a task his kind was designed to do as a Witcher. I’d add that the magical effects were also perfectly done. They were both subtle and effective.
The combat in this series is beautifully done. The scenes with Geralt fighting enemies with the camera panning him from the back is cinematography at it’s finest, along with the very gory, explicit kill scenes, all tying into the dark fantasy world. The sword fights all seemed realistic and natural, along with the powerful but not over powered magic.
My only criticism is that it can be difficult to follow at times when it jumps around to different points in time, even for someone familiar with the lore. However, paying closer attention pays off, and re-watching certain scenes can be both rewarding and productive. Though I’d humbly suggest that Hissrich include some date annotation going forward – and trust that it won’t detract from the story.
In summary, the first season is off with a bloody, sardonic, and immensely satisfying start. It’s a masterfully crafted and acted adaptation, and I have little doubt that it will become massively popular as it continues. Personally, I can’t wait to see where it goes from here.
Do keep in mind, the timeline in the episodes are not linear so keep an eye out for the obvious hints that will help you make the connection.
Really excited for the upcoming season.

Pond’s White Beauty spotless fairness | Review

Pros

Instant fairness and glow
Flowery scent
Thick texture
Affordable
Easy to carry
Good for oily skin
Non greasy, non oily
Light weight

Cons

Not suitable for dry skin

Claims

Brighten up millions of your dark and damaged cells. With Pro-Vitamin B3, one of the most powerful ingredients to boost radiance, this Day Cream is clinically proven to help your dark spots fade while providing a powdery, matte finish.

My experience

I bought Pond’s white beauty spotless fairness 25g for pkr. 275 (price may vary) from green valley, mall of Lahore. It has a very nice sturdy packaging, a plastic jar and a pink coloured lid which makes it easy to use and is travel friendly as well.

The cream has a mousse like texture which feels incredibly soft. The cream is pink in colour but casts a pinkish white colour when applied giving your skin a pinkish touch which looks absolutely good and fresh. It has a nice flower fragrance. I fell in love with this product as it mattifies my oily skin and controls the oil for about 3, 4 hours even then only my t zone gets a bit oily whereas rest of my face remains oil free.
It gives an instant fairness which fades after 3, 4 hours. I sometimes use it as an alternative for my base. It quickly dries on the skin so you have to move your hands fast. It provides UV protection too.

Although it does not lightens your skin complexion it definitely brightens your skin tone and gives an instant fairness too which is more than enough in such a low price.

Will I recommend it?

Yes, I will definitely recommend it as Pond’s white beauty spotless fairness has Pro-Vitamin B3 + Multiple UV Protection which gently brightens your skin tone giving it a pinkish white radiance and a matte finish within a very affordable price.

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Everybody hurts

There comes a point in life when you look back and see how happy you were and how much doing little things meant to you. All of it feels like a dream as if your every moment passed in just a blink of an eye and you no longer stand where you used to or enjoy things like the way you used to anymore. If only there is a way of getting that spark back in your life.
People. . . they always hurt. If you expect something from people, there is a strong possibility of you getting hurt. You can’t change those people because they mean so much to you so, you bear everything just for the sake of those people. They disappoint you in ways you never thought but still you don’t take them as a threat to your personality because come on you’re still not over their charms so you give them more time. You are on stage 1 now where you think they will change because YOU can’t get over them. You think of their selfish and hurtful behaviour of coping with things you might have done or said so you start blaming yourself for their wrong doings.
Now you’re tired of getting hurt. So, you use your brain and think of where the problem lies. Yes, you’re thinking right but no let’s hang around for a bit more and get a clear idea of things as the people patch up and change for some time and emotionally abuse you. So you think of giving them a second chance. Now you’re on stage 2. Congratulations !
After 2,3 days of their sudden change they’re back to their original personality and now they have evolved ! Yes, before only you used to blame yourself for their wrong doings NOW they too blame you ! It’s totally okay because YOU gave them this courage and right to do all these things to you in the first place. Now, you’re completely broken and hurt. No feelings and enthusiasm left in you.

You do things in your life not to enjoy them but because you HAVE to . You don’t feel happy anymore, nothing makes you happy. To your amazement those people will blame you for behaving like a dead person as YOU are ungrateful. Now, you’re on stage 3.
Not feeling happy, no enthusiasm, feeling hollow and sad all the time this is the new version of you only because you chose to stay with those people in the first place and you gave them the right to emotionally DESTROY you completely.
Now you have two ways from here, either you stay with them and prioritize yourself ONLY, focus on yourself and don’t rely on them in any way or you walk away from their lives for the sake of your mental health and peace. The choice is yours.
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L’oreal Paris 6 Oil Nourish, Oil in Cream, Oil Replacement cream | Review

How to use L’oreal Oil in Cream Oil Replacement Cream

This multi-use formula cream can be used
Prewash : Leave for 30 minutes on hair and rinse off for ultimate softness.
Post Wash Styling : Apply on lengths and tips to keep your hair manageable and protected all day.
Overnight : Massage on scalp and hair and leave it overnight for intense nourishment.

Pros of L’oreal Paris Hair Expertise 6 Oil Nourish Oil in Cream Oil Replacement Cream

Travel safe.
Easy to use and gorgeous packaging.
It’s creamy consistency makes it really easy to apply.
It can be used in 3 different ways.
Makes the hair really soft, smooth and reduces tangles.
Contains 6 amazing hair oils – Argan Oil, Almond Oil, Jojoba Oil, Olive oil, Coconut oil and Camelina oil
Contains UV filters as per claim.
Affordable price.
Easily available.

Cons of L’oreal Paris Hair Expertise 6 Oil Nourish Oil in Cream Oil Replacement Cream

Contains mineral oils, alcohol and strong artificial fragrances.
Does not make my hair frizz free.
Doesn’t last long since I require quite a lot of product per usage.
So many harmful chemicals.

My review

I bought L’oreal oil replacement cream from green valley, mall of Lahore for pkr. 640 (prices may vary).
Loreal Oil Replacement Cream comes in a beautiful golden shiny tube packaging. It has a flip open lid making it rather travel friendly. It has 6 oils namely Argan Oil, Almond Oil, Jojoba Oil, Olive oil, Coconut oil and Camelina oil.

It has a quite strong fragrance and found it really unpleasant as it bothers me. The fragrance stays in my hair for some hours and then it fades away but so does the ‘MAGIC’ it does. L’oreal Oil replacement cream is white in colour and has a very creamy consistency but it appears colourless when applied. It does not feel greasy at all neither it makes your hair sticky once it dries but the frizz doesn’t go away for long.
If you apply it prewash and then post wash too, the results will be better but I would not suggest buying it as an oil replacement as it does not work like one. It helps in detangling the hair and makes them smooth.

Will I recommend it?

No, I will not recommend it even though it is a non greasy and non sticky oil replacement cream it has a lot of harmful chemicals which can do more harm than good in the long run. It does not control my frizz for more than 5-6 hours neither it makes my hair 3× shinier 😊.

Makeup Revolution Pro Illuminate Highlighter | Review

Need more sparkling dazzle in your life? Well then go for this makeup revolution pro illuminate highlighter. The champagne gold pan is absolutely gorgeous but it looks even better when applied. This highlighter seriously makes you look glowy like a blinding glow and is by far my favourite highlighter.

Pros

Pocket friendly

Highly pigmented

Long staying power

Does not settle in pores

Huge pan

Feels so soft and velvety not powdery

No fall out

Not at all glittery

Cons

It has parabens

Not suitable for all skin tones

I bought this highlighter for Rs.800 (price may vary) from alfateh centaurus mall, Islamabad. It comes in a huge round slim pan. I love ♥️ the packaging and find it quite travel friendly as well.
Texture is quite smooth, soft and velvety. It feels so nice to even touch it 😍. It does not make you look powdery. It has a subtle glow not glittery at all which gives your face a nice sheen.

It has a nice champagne gold colour which looks great and has a transparent flip top lid. It is super pigmented but does not highlight your pores, which is a big thumbs up from me. It is buildable so you can use it to give you a more natural soft glow or that blinding glow too.

Neither its chalky and nor it’s powdery so it does not fall out. It is quite blendable as it has smooth buttery texture. Sometimes you just want to touch highlighter to feel its buttery smoothness. Lol.

It has a great long staying power. It stays on my face for about 5-6 hours without fading. It is so smooth and looks so nice that I swipe a little over my blush too for a nice glow.

Will I recommend makeup revolution Pro illuminate highlighter?

Yes, I will definitely recommend makeup revolution pro illuminate highlighter as it subtle yet completely stunning and will last throughout your life.

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DMGM studio look mega volume mascara | Review

If you want to buy a mascara, apply it on one of your eyes and then notice the difference . If it changes the look of your face then you should give it a try.

I bought this DMGM studio look mega volume mascara for PKR 1395 (price may vary) from green valley, mall of Lahore. It is quite affordable. It comes in a nice a black and golden packaging. The tube is long, quite thick and sturdy. I liked the packaging as it is easy to hold and use.

A lengthening, paraben free and affordable mascara that instantly adds volume to lashes (without clumps) to give you a very beautiful wide-eyed effect. It is long lasting and smudge proof but not water proof. It is opthalmologically tested too.
I’m not exaggerating when I say this mascara does wonders for not only my lashes but also my entire face. It totally changes the appearance of my face.

The bristles were soft and bushy evenly coating each and every lash with pitch black pigment giving a very intense look. My lashes tripled in volume and length. The formula was thick but didn’t clump and harden, separately lengthening the lashes making my eyes look bigger. Although it did flake after some time but the quantity was very small.
It is not water proof so you have to be careful after applying it. It did not smudge the whole day and stayed the same all day. Also it is quite easy to take it off.
Let your lashes dry between coats for extra volume. I also suggest that you take out less quantity of the product so you won’t apply a lot of it in one single coat making it look chunky. Apply the mascara on your upper lashes first and from there, you can also brush the mascara onto your lower lashes. The bushy bristles move around the lower lash line perfectly without causing any annoying smudges or chunkiness.
You will surely get nice compliments after using this mascara. This mascara really gives you a false lash effect and you would love using it.

Would I recommend it?

Yes, I would buy it again as it gives mega volume to the lashes and is paraben free. Apart from some flakiness it is a very good mascara in such an affordable price.

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10 wise Carl Jung quotes for a better understanding of yourself

Carl Jung was a famous swiss psychoanalyst and is the founder of anaytical psychology. He was a psychiatrist too. Psychoanalytical psychology is based on the individual’s psyche and the importance of wholeness for each individual.

Important concepts of psychoanalytical psychology are individuation, the collective unconscious the personal unconscious, archetypes, complexes, the persona, the shadow, the anima and animus, and the self.

Today I’m going to share some wise quotes of Carl jung here for a better understanding of yourself and the people around you.

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Herbella Face glow mist | Review

Herbella professional therapy is a Pakistani haircare, skin care and therapeutic scented candles brand. It is an online brand yet so you can get their products online through their facebook page or instagram. They ship all over Pakistan.

I was quite skeptical of trying their products at first as it is a new brand therefore I wasn’t quite sure. But my love of organic products forced me to try their products. So I tried their FACE GLOW MIST. Quite frankly it did not disappoint me.

Pros

Pocket friendly
Organic
Zero side effects
Does not clog pores
Has a nice rosy fragrance
Gives a very natural glow
Does not make skin oily
No artificial shine added
Feels very light and refreshing on skin
It has a nice golden shade
No breakouts
Nice spray nozzle
Easy to carry
Water-like consistency
Softens and soothes skin
Paraben free
Keeps skin hydrated
Can be used as a primer
Adds a nice dewy finish to my makeup.

Cons

Still trying to find one 😂

Herbella Face Glow Mist claims to give your skin Vitamin C nourishment and helps unclog pores. It brightens skin as well and can be used as a toner. It is paraben free. It has a rose scent as it is made with rose water.
Herbella face glow mist is quite affordable as one 100 ml bottle is of 650 pkr. The herbella face flow mist comes in a nice clear plastic spray bottle.

The bottle has the information of how to use it. It is quite sturdy and easy to carry around. All the products used in this face glow mist are totally organic so they have no side effect on the skin. It is best for dull, dry and flaky skins.
Herbella face glow mist has a rose scent but the scent dissipates after a while which is a good thing. The product gives your skin a nice healthy glow as it claims. Vitamin C used in this face glow mist leaves your skin looking vibrant. It has a nice golden shade and has a water like consistency. Nothing can go wrong in an all organic genuine beauty product !!

The formulation is so lightweight and hydrating. I was in doubt that it would give my skin a greasy look as I already have an oily skin but it did not !! It is quite comfortable to wear and does not give that sticky feel behind. It brightens your skin also as it prevents tanning of face. Herbella face glow mist works best for all skin types.
You can use it under your foundation as a primer or for like setting your makeup too. It did not make me break out at all. So it’s a good product to buy.

Would I recommend it?

Overall it is a fantastic product and I would definitely buy it again 😊.

Want to stay FOREVER HAPPY in your relationship?

Want to know how to have a happy, satisfied and a life long relationship?

Life is all rainbows and unicorn when you fall in love and like spending time with your loved one. You want to be with that someone every second of the day. You like everything they do or say but you have to work for the relationship once the rainbows and unicorns starts to disappear and you notice your partners flaws and bad behaviour, if you want your relationship to continue happily.

Dr. John Mordecai Gottman is a researcher, clinician, award winning speaker, author and a professor emeritus in psychology who did a vast research work on improving the relationships and prevention of behaviours that can destroy a relationship. He concluded four behaviours that mostly predict a couple’s divorce. These four behaviours slowly eat your relationship, destroying it and eventually pushing the couple for a divorce. You won’t know and slowly these behaviours will put your relationship to an end, a dead end.
Here are the Gottman’s four negative behaviour

Criticism

When in a relationship it’s natural for the couple to dislike some behaviours of the other partner. So to clear things out, they talk about it and get to a conclusion. Arguments happen in a relationship. But a relationship gets toxic and impossible to handle when there is criticism on the personality is involved. If one partner criticizes the personality of the other partner like how do you talk or laugh or walk, the other partner will most likely get hurt and attack back and it will lead to a heated argument. So for a happy relationship avoid criticizing your partners personality.

Contempt

Gottman considered this the worst of the four behaviours. Contempt is the most important predictor of a divorce. Gottman called it as ‘sulphuric acid for love’. One can sense the level of destruction this one behaviour can cause from this statement. The contemptuous partner feels superior and show their contempt by correcting your grammar or pronunciation of a word during a talk, mock the other partner and have a hostile humour. In short a contemptuous person disrespects their partner and people don’t like being disrespected.

Defensiveness

If you attack your partner naturally they will get defensive and retaliate in a way you won’t like either. Most probably they will blame you for the reason of every fight as you pointed out something generating an argument. They will save themselves and paint you as the bad guy.

Stonewalling

Stonewalling is emotional withdrawal from interaction as one partner criticized the other partner and they have built an imaginary wall just for the sake of avoiding them during an argument . They refuse to communicate to the other partner during an argument. They develop this habit just to avoid the argument. They don’t react at all, totally blocking to be a part of that argument.

This article is not for self diagnosis purpose. This article is just for a general information. I hope you liked the article.

How to get rid of toxic people

“Negative people can only infest you with discouragements when they find you around… Just get lost and get saved!” Israelmore Ayivor

We can find toxic people in our daily lives. Most of us encounter toxic people either at our workplace, in iur daily lives or we have relationship with a toxic person. People who drain our energies, non supportive, emotional abusers and back stabbers are mostly known as toxic people or negative people. They make us feel bad intentionally. Whether they do it because of their insecurities or their need to feel superior, they still end up hurting us in order for them to feel satisfied.

Toxic people are not hard to find as they have certain tendencies by which they are easy to locate. Some of the signs of toxic people are written below;
Their selfishness can be spotted anywhere. They are quite selfish, always putting their needs before others needs.
They are generally insecure. These insecurities can of because of anything or either any person.
They are egoistic and thismakes them to feel that they’re always right as they think they’re far more superior than others so everyone should listen to them.
They often mislead you. Try to twist things to make you depressed or anxious about things important to you.
They never appreciate others, as to toxic people only they are perfect.
Toxic people are not nice to others. Never say nice things to people and never cherish their feelings.
They are attention seekers and can lie to get that attention. They love creating drama and getting all the attention.
They are never straight forward. Talk to a toxic person and they will never give you a straight answer.
They are manipulators. They manipulate people and situations as they like to feel superior so they have the urge to control others. In their mind people should follow them without doubting them.
Everyone deserve supportive, loving and people who they like to spend time with. People with an over flowing negativity make sure to pour that negativity in our lives too. A small chat with a toxic person can make you feel bad about yourself. They have a tendency to lower your morales that you might end up locking your room and think about your useless existence for hours.

There are ways to put a stop to the nonsense of toxic people and live your life your way.

Speak up
First and foremost step is to speak up for yourself. No one has the right to put you down in any way. If you find someone saying something that you’re uncomfortable with just tell them to stop right on their faces before they take advantage of your inability to say no. Convey them that they should not take you for granted. Tell them to go somewhere else and pour out their negativity as you’re not interested in talking to them unless they have something good, reasonable or logical to talk about. Never ever let anyone take advantage of you or your position.

Do not become a victim
Never indulge in any negative conversation with a toxic person. If you tell them about any person chances are they will most likely spread it making you look bad.
They might manipulate you into gossiping so stay away from them and avoid having long conversations with them.

Avoid a toxic person
The best way to avoid a toxic person is by not interacting with them at all and avoiding them at all cost. The less you interact with them, the less they will feed you their negativity and you will live a peaceful and happy life.

A word of advice is to always be with the people who love you and who you love. Surround yourself with positive people and their positive energy will make you happy and lively too. Spread love, happiness and positivity. Enjoy your life.

Know the type of your dream

Ever dreamt that you were with the one you love the most at some place which is beyond the definition of beautiful?

Or dreamt of being in an exam hall where you run out of time but you didn’t know the answers to the questions anyway.

A dream where you find yourself at an unimaginable serene place not less than heaven or a dream of being United with your family?

Indeed, we all see dreams while we sleep every now and then and in order to understand ourselves better it is important to know our dreams.
It is safe to say that dreams can be categorized into 3 major types, knowingly:
1) Holy/Spiritual dreams
2) Desires/Wants
3) Thoughts/Memories

The first kind of dreams are rare to occur but holds great meaning in them. Seeing God in a dream or watching oneself in heavenly place can be examples of such category. It is believed that these kinds of dreams are highly positive and true but people can hardly understand the hidden messages they hold.

The second type of dreams, which are the desires and wishes of an individual, are more common to occur as we tend to constantly wish for things and it gets imprinted into our subconscious at some time. Thus, seeing a loved one or partner in a dream is merely depiction of our desires which takes the form of visuals in our sleep. Sometimes desires and thoughts are interchangeable and related which makes it harder to separate desires from thought-form of dreams.

Finally, the third type is the most recurring and common type of dreams. Our brain functions round the clock and is never free of thoughts. Thoughts can be memories or current phenomenon. But they get hold of greater part of our dream formation. A person going through break-up is likely to see glimpses of past memories re-enacted in their dreams. Such type of dreams are also a coping mechanism for stress and depression.

Dreams are naturally occurring phenomenon which can not be explained properly by any individual because it has unique value and experience for each individual just like love has.

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Mother’s Day Special

Thank you all for taking out some time to read my article. I genuinely appreciate it. I love my mother the most and try to be like her but if I turn out to be a fraction of her I would consider that as my achievement. I, being a mom, love my kid to bits. I would do and can do anything for him. These are the same thoughts and feelings of every mom around the globe. They always put their children ahead of themselves. Some days are just better than the others where you struggle less, but every day is a new struggle for them to make the world best for the small people they have created (that would be our children). Your efforts can never go unnoticed.
Mothers build a whole new generation. Mothers are the building blocks of the society. Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, you all deserve a noble prize for doing such a good work.

None of you applied for this job, you just got one and even though you guys never had any prior experience and any prior knowledge about it, you still are acing it. This job doesn’t need a degree neither you’ll have defined work hours. You have to work round the clock without any pay or incentive. You will have to sacrifice your sleep, your body figure, peace, appearance and sanity at times. You would do anything and everything for your children. In my religion, a mother has the highest place.
We think mothers have some kind of super powers because they make miracles happen. It’s not true but I being a mother know that I would go to any length to make things right for my baby and keep him happy no matter the cost.
I always thought motherhood would be very easy but oh boy was I wrong. Lol. It is without a doubt the toughest job in the world. Can you imagine being pooped on, being vomitted on and still would stay that way to clean the other person before you?? No you won’t. But this is the charm of being a mother, you put your needs and desires second and your baby always first !
There is no criteria of being a great mom. In my view, every mom is a great mom. Sometimes the kids get on our nerves but still we want them to be happy. We love watching them grow, play and explore the world. Motherhood is a unique experience for everyone but never take your mother for granted. Spend quality time with her, make her feel special and do everything for her that she would have done for you. Let’s not forget what our mothers have done for us. Now it’s our duty to make them happy. We cannot and should not limit ourselves to just this one day instead we should give them time more often and make them happy and feel needed. What we’ll do today for our mothers, tomorrow our children will do the same for us.
In the end I would like to say that no doubt motherhood is a quite challenging and demanding job yet we all mothers try our best to give our best. I am so grateful for having the best mom and I try to be the best mom to my baby boy. Wishing you all a happy mother’s day. You all are doing a great job and everybody knows that by now. Cherish these moments and pray for me and my family.
Dedicated to all mothers. I hope you liked the article 😊