Emotional Precautions to Take During the Coronavirus Pandemic

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Obsessed with the coronavirus? I know you are because we all are.
We become obsessed with things that are out of our control. It’s because our brains must work overtime to process the incredible changes we are experiencing.
As a result, it can be hard to get ourselves to think about anything other than the news as this historic event unfolds.
What’s the likelihood of a successful vaccine? How do you make good choices for yourself and others? What will be the economic fallout? These issues and more are all on our minds, for sure.

5 Big Challenges of getting through this global pandemic

The suddenness of it

You may have heard of the virus spreading overseas a few weeks ago, but it seemed very far removed at that time. Then, seemingly quite suddenly, it’s here. In fact, it’s not only here, but it is affecting you. The world has come to a screeching stop.

Powerlessness

Human beings are notoriously bad about dealing with things that are out of our control. In many ways, we all find ourselves standing by and watching the virus infect more people. There is little we can do and it is hard.

Constant News

Every day we wake up to more bad news for us to consume. Then, it continues all day; more news coming in about how the virus is spreading, how poorly people are responding to calls to stay home to prevent the virus spread, and much, much more. It is easy to become obsessed and overwhelmed with all this information.

Social Isolation

Let’s face it, we’re all lonely. Trapped in our homes, there is little to do but wait.

Reality-based fear

Most likely you are worried about your own personal finances. Whether you are laid off, facing a lay-off, concerned about the value of your home, or concerned about meeting your bills, we all watch as the global economy suffers. We worry about our future. It’s normal.
As the world closes down around us, and as life as we’ve known it comes to a halt, we must cope.
We have been educated about a number of physical precautions to take: Social distance, stay at home, hand washing, and more. But in an event this extensive and impactful, it’s not just your physical health at stake. It’s imperative to watch out for your emotional health too. There are some things we should all be aware of. It’s important.

Why is it Important to Take Emotional Precautions?

• Your emotional and psychological state have a powerful impact on your immunity. It is vital to take special care of it.
• You may be closed up in a house with your family or roommate. They are affected by your emotional state and their immunity can also be affected by your emotional health.
• Taking emotional precautions will help you make better decisions through these frightening, challenging, nebulous times.

Emotional Precautions You Should Take During The Global Pandemic

Pay attention to your feelings and allow yourself to feel them

Some of us are more likely than others to fail at this one. We march through all of the sudden changes and anxiety without ever paying attention to how we are actually feeling about it. But in this situation, it is important to pause, focus on your feelings, and identify them. Are you feeling frightened? Concerned? Sad? Disappointed? Lost? Alone? Fearful? Helpless? Hopeless? It might be anything. But it’s important for you to know, and it will help you feel better to know.

Help yourself feel less powerless by doing what you can

Follow the recommendations for social distancing. Use your good judgment balancing self-care and care for others. Offer assistance for those around you who need it. Support others and look for support when you need it.

Limit your news consumption to certain times of day

Reading every news notification that comes in all day long will consume you and alter your brain chemicals. You can set some healthy limits for yourself! For example, read the news first thing in the morning; then don’t read it again until the next morning. Do not worry, the news will wait for you.

Connect with your loved ones

During these lonely times, it is extra crucial to reach out. Check in with people. Call someone and say, “I’m lonely. Want to chat?” Most likely that person is lonely too.

Use this opportunity to grow in some way

Perhaps you can reframe this situation from “global pandemic” to “opportunity.” It’s a chance to tune in and pay attention to yourself because, in a way, external distractions are minimized. Choose a way you’ve been wanting to improve yourself and go with it.
Ignoring what you’re feeling allows your neglected emotions to become stronger. Those ignored feelings can cause headaches, backaches, multiple other physical problems but, most importantly right now, they can lower your immunity.
Share your feelings and issues about your pandemic experience by talking to a professional. Also, wishing you good health!

Toddler Temper Tantrums

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When was the last time you pitched a good fit? Adults have tantrums, too, but we excuse them as letting off steam. When our desire to do or have something or our anger at making a wrong decision or losing a valued item exceeds our ability to simply shrug it off, we release our emotions by stomping our feet, slamming doors, throwing things, pounding fists on a table, and shouting with rage. Then you feel better usually and go about your business. Sounds childish? But it’s also adult-ish. Add this normal behavior of any emotional person to the ambivalent feelings of a growing toddler, and you have the makings of a temper tantrum.
Two basic feelings prompt most toddler temper tantrums.
• Intense curiosity
• Desire to perform an act
This leads to intense frustration, which is released in a healthy tantrum. Second, newly found power and the desire for “bigness” propel him toward a certain act, when suddenly someone from above, especially someone he loves, descends upon him with a “no.” It is a conflict he cannot handle without a fight. He wants to be big, but reality tells him how small he is; he is angry but does not yet have the language to express his anger, so he does so in actions. Because he cannot yet handle emotions with reason, he chooses to cope with his inner emotions by a display of outward emotions, which we call a tantrum.

How to Handle Toddler Temper Tantrums?

Temper tantrums become a problem for both the parent and the child. How should you handle such episodes? First, realize that you can’t “handle” them; you can only respect them. They reflect your child’s emotions, which he has to learn to handle. You are not responsible for the cause or the treatment of these outrages. Your role is to support your child. Too much interference deprives him of his power and a release from inner tension, whereas not enough support leaves him to cope all by himself without the reserves to do so. This can be an exhausting and frightening experience for both the child and the parents. Here are some ways to turn down the heat.

Learn What Triggers Your Child

Keep a tantrum diary. Know what sets your child off. Is he hungry, tired? Are there circumstances that he can’t handle? What triggers undesirable behavior? For example, if your toddler cannot handle the supermarket scene, shop during off hours and leave baby with your spouse. Watch for pre-tantrum signs. If you notice that a few minutes before the flare-up, your baby is usually bored, doesn’t seem connected to anyone or anything, whines, broods, or asks for something he can’t have, intervene when you hear these grumbles, before the little volcano erupts.

Stay Calm

As baby sees, baby does. If your baby sees you tantrum, expect him to imitate your behavior. Older children can handle a behavior outburst from parents and siblings because they can understand an explanation of the behavior, and you eventually end it with an apology and a therapeutic laugh. Toddlers may be confused when witnessing too many angry explosions and feel this is standard operating behavior within the family.

Who’s having the tantrum?

If you are a volatile person, it’s easy for a toddler to set off your own explosion, ending up in a shouting match that neither person hears or wins. He is already out of control and needs you to stay in control.

Redirecting Impulsive Behavior

Babies learn by doing things. Their growing minds are driven to explore and try out new behaviors, both for their effect on caregivers and for the way they work for the children themselves. Beware the noncurious baby.
When a baby is in a mood or stage to try out a certain behavior, attempt to channel it into one that is tolerable to you and has learning value for baby. Distracting the volatile toddler when he is about to explode may thwart a blowup.
Does this scenario sound familiar? Baby is throwing a hard ball in the house and is about to do some damage. You shout, “No!” and snatch the ball from your toddler’s hands. He erupts into a flailing, kicking, stomping, angry tirade and disintegrates into a curled-up heap on the floor beneath your feet.
Scratch this scene. Instead, as you retrieve the dangerous ball with one hand, offer a soft ball with the other and a tantrum-aborting, “Here’s a fun ball.” Or as baby begins his “no-no” pleadings for his ball, channel his throwing into a more suitable ballpark: “Let’s go outside and play ball together.” This is a win-win situation: You make your point, toddler gets to play ball.
First of all, know yourself. If your child’s cries or tantrums make you angry or anxious, it is important for you to understand what went on in your past to cause this. Sometimes just knowing that there is a connection helps a parent deal with upset behavior in their children in a mature way. Often the issues run quite deep, especially when abuse of any kind was inflicted on a person as a child, and counseling becomes necessary. It is important to the emotional health of your child that you seek help in counseling or therapy so that you can understand yourself and your reactions to your toddler’s disturbing behavior.

Don’t Take it Personally

If baby’s rage easily gets under your skin, remember you are responsible neither for baby’s tantrum nor for stopping it. The “goodness” of the baby is not a reflection of your goodness as a parent. Tantrums are as common as frequent falls as a baby climbs the shaky ladder toward independence.

A Private Scene

Toddler temper tantrums in public places are embarrassing, and it is often difficult to consider a child’s feelings first. If you feel trapped and embarrassed in line at the supermarket, rather than lashing out, calmly carry your child to a private place such as a bathroom or your car where your child can perform his act and you can calmly perform yours without worrying about audience approval.

Stay Cool

Toddlers throw fits at the worst times, and this “bad” behavior makes you look bad around your friends. Tantrums often occur when parents are in a hurry and preoccupied with non-baby-oriented tasks, such as preparing a dinner party, or when babies sense that parents are not tuned in to them. Undesirable behavior often takes place when we impose unrealistic expectations on a child. To expect a curious toddler to be the model of obedience in a supermarket, where he is surrounded by a smorgasbord of tempting delights, may be asking too much. Go when you both are rested and fed and make it a time for dialogue about your purchases, letting him help from the safety of his belted shopping-cart seat. Remember, he is a person. Schedule upsetting events, such as getting shots at a doctor’s office, at your child’s best behavioral time of the day. Expecting a child to be the model of good behavior at the end of the day when he is tired and hungry (and so are you) is asking too much.

Choose Your Battles Wisely

To survive the toddler tantrum stage, we divide toddler desires into “biggies” and “smallies.” Staying in a car seat is a biggie. It is nonnegotiable, and all the tantrum theatrics in the world will not free the safely contained protester. But which outfit to wear on a given day is a smallie. A clothing mismatch is not worth a fight. When wearing a shirt is nonnegotiable, offering choices may save face for both parent and child: “Do you want to wear the red or blue shirt?” This lets your child feel as if he has control over his choices. Make sure what you decide to say no to is really worth it. Many toddlers throw a fit over having to put shoes on before leaving the house. Instead of starting a fight every time, maybe it’s okay to simply bring the shoes along in the car and put them on when you reach your destination. In our home we do not have the time or energy to hassle about small things. If our child demands peanut butter on top of the jelly but refuses to eat the stuff when smeared the other way around, we are not afraid to accommodate a minor whim. If grandma wonders, this is not spoiling.

Is It Okay to Retreat?

You will occasionally find that you’ve triggered a tantrum by saying no, your child has really lost it, and you wish you had said yes in the first place because you now realize it was a “smallie.” Can you change your mind? Yes, as long as you don’t do it too often. Explain to your child that you have changed your mind but not because of the tantrum. This gives your child the message that you love him and that you are flexible enough to reconsider what’s best in any situation.

Should You Ignore a Tantrum?

Most of the time the “ignore it” advice is unwise. Ignoring any behavior in your child deprives your child of a valuable support resource and deprives parents of an opportunity to improve their rapport with the tantrumer. Your simply being available during a tantrum gives your child a needed crutch. Toddler temper tantrums bring out the best of your intuitive parenting. If your child is losing control and needs help to regain control, often a few soothing words or a little help may put him on the road to recovery. If he has chosen an impossible task, try to distract him or channel him into an easily achievable play direction. Occasionally a very strong-willed child will lose control of himself during a tantrum. It often helps to simply hold him firmly but lovingly and explain, “You are angry, and you have lost control. I’m holding you because I love you.” You may find that after a minute or more of struggling to free himself, he melts in your arms, as if to thank you for rescuing him from himself.
Just as adults want to share their misery with someone, toddlers seldom tantrum alone. We believe that most babies actually want and need help during a tantrum. The fact that babies have more tantrums in the presence of someone they love and trust should not be interpreted as manipulation; it is rather that they feel safe and trusting enough to lose it in the presence of their favorite support person. Often a toddler temper tantrums because she does not have the words yet to express her needs, thoughts, or feelings. She may resort to a tantrum in order to get your attention if you are being distant, not giving her enough time. In these cases, you can usually help by giving her the words, verbalizing for her what you think and feel she needs.

Be Empathetic

A common impulse is for parents to try to fix a situation that has triggered a tantrum. While this may be appropriate in some situations, toddlers may simply be looking for empathetic understanding. For example, when a toddler throws a fit over the fact that he just took his last bite of cookie and he wants more, a parent may try to offer other snacks to calm the child. Instead, let your child know that you agree with him; it is sad that the cookie is all gone. You wish there were more cookies, too. You love cookies and can’t wait until tomorrow when there will be more! Simply hearing that someone agrees with him and feels the same way he does about this tragic situation is often enough to calm a child down and help him move on.

What do women really want?

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The great question that has never been answered and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is “What does a woman want?”
—Sigmund Freud

Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the colour nine.
—Will Ferrell

STEPHEN HAWKING, the legendary astrophysicist and a man who has solved some of the most complex mysteries of the universe, was asked what it is he thinks about most. His answer was not very surprising. Which scientific puzzle confounds the genius of Hawking? “Women,” he said. “They are a complete mystery.”

If Hawking, Freud, and Ferrell, two of the greatest scientists and one of the funniest comics of our time, can’t understand women, what hope is there for the average guy? How is he to muddle through the perplexing universe that is Woman? The first thing you need to know in order to unravel this mystery is simple: All women are unique.

That’s right, every last one of them is special. Ultimately, the goal is not to become the world’s greatest lover, or boyfriend, or husband, but to become the world’s greatest lover, boyfriend, or husband of your particular partner. In short, listen to your partner. Her truth is really the only truth that matters. Yet this article will help you accelerate the learning curve, because it also reveals that women possess aspects in common in how they play, work, dream, and love, and those are the secrets I want to share with you. The second thing you need to know is that it is not as complicated as you think.

Imagine you are a tourist in a foreign land, and this book is your guided tour of the heart and mind—and, oh yeah, body—of that sovereign state. Like when visiting any foreign land, you want to be prepared—read the travel advisories, pack the right equipment, study the language, and learn as much as you can about the culture, the history, and the customs. Total immersion. You also want to learn the laws of the land; you should know what constitutes a crime and what the penalties are. No one wants to end up in prison in a foreign country. The Land of Women is no exception.

The One Thing All Women Look for in a Man
What is the number one thing that women are looking for in a man? Six-pack abs? Six-figure bank account? A tall, handsome man riding a white horse? No, no, and no. The number one thing women look for is simply this: trustworthiness. That’s right, trustworthiness.
Trustworthiness isn’t just about whether or not you are a player or, if you’re in a long-term relationship, whether or not you’ve ever been unfaithful. Although those things are fundamental and important to trustworthiness, they are not enough.
What trustworthiness looks like in dating and marriage is this: You are who you say you are and you do what you say you are going to do. It’s about reliability, accountability, and showing up just as you are. Being trustworthy is not just about safeguarding a woman’s body or her children. It’s about safeguarding her heart, as well.

The Two Major Complaints That Women Have
The first complaint is: “He is never there for me.” The second complaint is: “There isn’t enough intimacy and connection.” These women feel alone even when they are in a relationship. In many ways, these are related complaints. These women cannot trust their men to be there for them when they need them. Most of the time, this is about being there for them emotionally: listening to them, caring for them, and safeguarding their hearts.

A Tune-Up
Women want men who are there for them when they need them. They want men who are interested in them and who care about them. Woman need to feel respected, heard, and connected.
So where can you buy a can of attunement? You can’t. But you can learn it. It’s not complex. It’s not rocket science. And it has a handy acronym, so the next time you’re with a woman you can think: Just A-TT-U-N-E.

ATTEND

Give your undivided attention when it’s needed. This means that if a woman wants to talk to you, turn off the game, put away your cell phone, and show by your actions that you care about her and about what she is saying. Even if it is the minutiae of her day or something that seems unimportant to you, it is important to her and is a request for connection. If you are on a date, direct your attention to the woman you are with. No scanning the room, no checking out other women, no texting your buddies during dinner. Attention equals affection. Attention ultimately is how you express love.

TURN TOWARD
This is not a metaphor or a new age expression. Physically. Turn. Toward. Your. Partner. Women equate intimacy with conversation that is face-to-face and eyeball-to-eyeball. Unless you and your woman are about to take down a buffalo, turn toward her while you talk.

UNDERSTAND
No matter what she is saying, the goal is understanding. And how you get to understanding is by asking questions. If the woman in your life is complaining about her best friend, don’t offer a solution, don’t try to distract her, don’t think of how you can “fix” the problem, don’t make jokes, and don’t minimize the problem. Ask questions about what she is feeling and what it all means to her. This part of attuning is not about saying “I understand”; it’s about showing genuine interest and attempting to understand why this is important to her. Whether she is complaining about her mother, frustrated with her boss, or pissed off at you—let understanding be your goal.

NONDEFENSIVELY LISTEN

If you are paying attention, turning toward her, and seeking understanding, you are well on your way down the path of nondefensive listening. This is especially important if what a woman is talking about or is upset about is you. Don’t react. No one likes to be criticized or feel like they are under attack. But the tricky thing is, if you counterattack, make excuses, justify, or argue, you are only going to be criticized more. Don’t interrupt and don’t forget that any feeling is fact to the person feeling it. Whether or not you agree with her reactions or how she sees reality, her feelings are real to her in that moment.

EMPATHIZE
For those of you thinking you’ve already covered this with the whole “understanding” thing, think again. Understanding is an intellectual pursuit, while empathy is an emotional pursuit. Try to feel how a woman is feeling, even it seems illogical to you. Try to put yourself in her shoes and then think.
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Play on the one string you have – Your Attitude

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The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more become more than you ever dreamed. You have greatness within you … and your attitude is the key to unlocking that potential. Changing my attitude changed my life. And if a better attitude can work miracles in my life, it can work miracles in yours!

I’d like to share with you these words from Dr. Charles Swindoll, who captured the essence of attitude—and how it dominates the direction of our lives.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a group … a community… a home. You can follow some of these points to change your attitude too.
1. Success begins in the mind
2. You should watch your words
3. Stop complaining
4. Associate with positive people
5. Confront your fears and grow
6. Get out there and fail
7. Keep trying till you accomplish your goal
8. Turn your problems into opportunities
9. Take active steps to change your dreams into reality
10. The power of attitude can change your destiny.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past … we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes.
Pretty powerful words, aren’t they? Do what Charles Swindoll suggests and “play on the one string you have”—your ATTITUDE.
Now is the time to take control of your attitude.

Now is the time to start creating miracles in your own life.
Go ahead—believe in yourself. Have the courage and persistence to follow your dreams. And above all, never, never forget that … Attitude is Everything!

You season 2 – Review

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To catch up on what happened in YOU season 1, read my season 1 review here

You Season 1 – Review

So I just finished season two in two days. Let me just say that it is very much worth the watch. Season two gets better and shines more light into Joe’s childhood. Things make more sense but let me tell you that this show definitely is not a light hearted show. It’s dark in an alluring way.

The story is so good.
The lead character, Joe Goldberg (Penn Badgley), walks you through everything he’s thinking while the show goes on, which lets you know how much of a psychopath he is.

He does seem to have a soft spot for children, whom he cares for and tries to protect, as he needed to be as a child.

Every episode leaves you on the edge of wanting to know what happens next and hardly ever you will find yourself scrolling your cellphone from boredom.

After his pre-Beck ex Candace (Ambyr Childers) turns up, very much alive and aware of his crimes, Joe flees to Los Angeles; the perfect hiding spot because it’s the last place he wants to be. There, Joe gets a new name (Will), a new life (ok, he’s still a bookstore employee, but now it’s at a hippie chic LA health store called Anavrin, aka Nirvana spelled backwards), and, of course, a new obsession.

There he meet Love Quinn (Victoria Pedretti) and falls into the same pattern he did with Beck but this time Joe thinks it will be different and he will be a better man so the bad things he does for her can be excused because she makes him want to do “good”.

No matter how far he moves, nor how fast he moves on to a new woman, Joe cannot escape the violent deeds of his past. Joe is unable to run away from his crimes against Beck just as he was unable to escape what he did to Candace.

Love Quinn is just as willing to kill for love as Joe, in fact, recognizing their kindred darkness is what drew her to him.

She’s spent the season manipulating events and playing him as much as he has her.

The season ends with them together, and Joe trapped in an even worse hell with Love being pregnant and willing to do anything for their relationship even like murdering someone to save their relationship.

The twist at the ending shocked me. I was not ready for what happened but in a good way. I was also sad to find out about some way things ended for some characters and their deaths but love the way how things turned out. Love is possibly even more unhinged than Joe, and unlike him, she’s actually a methodical and competent killer who knows exactly how to take down her prey.

Season 2 had some amazing character development and completely unbelievable, as well unexpected twists. The series serves as a highly binge-able, very modern thriller.

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Marriage Story – Netflix Review

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Marriage Story is a 2019 American comedy-drama film written, directed and produced by Noah Baumbach. It stars Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver, with Laura Dern, Alan Alda, Ray Liotta, Azhy Robertson, Julie Hagerty, Merritt Wever, and Wallace Shawn in supporting roles. The film follows a married couple (Johansson and Driver) going through a coast-to-coast divorce. I thought it was great, though it should really be called Divorce Story.

The acting is fantastic and the overall plot is strong. This movie’s commitment to realism really sells it and the message I got from it was valuable. It’s not a feel good movie. It’s a movie that will bring emotions out of you, emotions you were never aware you had. It’s a movie about fatherhood and motherhood. It’s a movie about togetherness and separation.
This film is about a unique feeling, the feeling that depicts, the volatile state of mind when your are about to or you have already left something behind, that you care and still sometimes get the hang of that it could have worked in some other way!
Movies such as this only are made once or twice in a decade. I will give the director, writer, cast and crew full credit for creating something that has left such profound feeling of disparity, sorrow, grief and anger, yet, at the same time, you feel connected to all the characters. You would want to pick sides, but you won’t be able to. That’s the beauty of this movie. Unlike Kramer vs Kramer, where you clearly are rooting for Ted, or in A Separation, where you empathise with what Simin is going through, Marriage Story will leave you pondering about the reality of the separation. This movie covers a couple going through a divorce and pulls no punches about the hardship of all of it.

The core issue is that the breadwinner is Charlie and his wife Nicole wants to move from NY to LA to get a part in a show. Charlie elects to stay in NY and continue directing his successful broadway plays. Both parties here are selfish.

Nicole is willing to uproot her child and throw away her marriage because of a dream. Charlie is willing to let this happen and lose his son because of his dream. They are both selfish and equally responsible for their failed marriage. Nicole is not in love anymore, she is happy that she had to courage to leave Charlie and stand up for herself.

The couple split amicably with no lawyers but eventually, Nicole hires a high priced lawyer and takes it to court. By the end Charlie is destitute, losing his company, and losing his son. In the end, Nicole allows him to have his son over for an extra night and he thanks her sincerely. Charlie thanks her for allowing him to see his son- this is supposed to be sweet but to me it is horrifying.

Nicole took all of Charlie’s money, his business, his dreams, and his son and then throws him scraps and we are suppose to think she is a good person? I refuse to think this. She is a bitter person that put her son and husband through hell for petty revenge.
I guess this is where the film lost me and gained me. I despise Nicole by the end despite the attempts of the movie but I respect its commitment to realism.
A beautiful film, and magnificent job by Noah Baumbach (the director).

What is leaving netflix in 2020?

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Netflix loses it’s movies and seasons every year because of it’s licensing deals. So here are all of the movies and seasons you won’t be able to stream on netflix in 2020.

SEASONS

• Vampire diaries (Season 1 – 8)
• Grimm (Season 1 – 6 )
• Weeds (Season 1 – 8)
• 12 monkeys (Season 1 – 3)
• Spartacus (Season 1 – 4)
• La Reina del Sur (Season 1)
• Maron (Season 1 – 4)

MOVIES

• 16 Blocks (2006)
• 187, aka One Eight Seven (1997)
• The 24 Hour War (2016)
• About a Boy (2002)
• Across the Universe (2007)
• Æon Flux (2005)
• Alice Doesn’t Live Here Anymore (1974)
• AlphaGo (2017)
• American History X (1998)
• American Psycho (2000)
• An American Tail (1986)
• An American Tail: Fievel Goes West (1991)
• An American Tail: The Mystery of the Night
• Monster (1999)
• An American Tail: The Treasures of Manhattan Island (2000)
• Balto (1995)
• Balto 2: Wolf Quest (2001)
• Balto 3: Wings of Change (2004)
• Billy Elliot (2000)
• Black Hawk Down (2001)
• Blood Diamond (2006)
• The Book of Eli (2010)
• The Brave One (2007)
• The Bucket List (2007)
• Butterfield 8 (1960)
• Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (1958)
• Chappie (2015)
• Christmas Break-In (2019)
• Christmas with the Kranks (2004)
• The Cincinnati Kid (1965)
• Class Act (1992)
• Cleopatra Jones (1973)
• Cloud Atlas (2012)
• Cool Hand Luke (1967)
• The Crow (1994)
• Dad (1989)
• Daddy Day Care (2003)
• The Dark Crystal (1982)
• Deep Blue Sea (1999)
• Enter the Dragon (1973)
• Evan Almighty (2007)
• Executive Decision (1996)
• Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas (1998)
• The Flintstones (1994)
• The Flintstones in Viva Rock Vegas (2000)
• Forbidden Planet (1956)
• Forks Over Knives (2011)
• Fracture (2007)
• Good Luck Chuck (2007)
• Gosford Park (2001)
• Grease (1978)
• Happy Hunting (2017)
• Hum Aapke Hain Koun (1994)
• Hum Saath-Saath Hain (1999)
• Hurricane Bianca (2016)
• The Informant! (2009)
• Inkheart (2008)
• The In-Laws (2003)
• Jackie Brown (1997)
• Justin Bieber: Never Say Never (2011)
• Knowing (2009)
• Lady in the Water (2006)
• The Lake House (2006)
• Leap Year (2010)
• Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels (1998)
• Lolita (1962)
• The Long Kiss Goodnight (1996)
• Love & Basketball (2000)
• Maine Pyar Kiya (1989)
• Malcolm X (1992)
• Mean Streets (1973)
• Mona Lisa Smile (2003)
• Mr. Woodcock (2007)
• Mutiny on the Bounty (1962)
• Mystic River (2003)
• National Lampoon’s Loaded Weapon 1 (1993)
• No Reservations (2007)
• Now and Then (1995)
• Ocean’s Eleven (1960)
• Open Season (2006)
• The Pelican Brief (1993)
• Panic Room (2002)
• Penelope (2006)
• The Pink Panther (2006)
• Pulp Fiction (1994)
• The Queen of the Damned (2002)
• R.L. Stine’s Mostly Ghostly (2008)
• Rain Man (1988)
• Rebel Without a Cause (1955)
• Revolutionary Road (2008)
• Rocky (1976)
• Rocky II (1979)
• Rocky III (1982)
• Rocky IV (1985)
• Rocky V (1990)
• Rumor Has It… (2005)
• Sanai Choughade (2008)
• Schindler’s List (1993)
• Short Term 12 (2013)
• Something’s Gotta Give (2003)
• Space Cowboys (2000)
• Sparkle (1976)
• Spy Kids 2: The Island of Lost Dreams (2002)
• Starsky & Hutch (2004)
• Super Fly, aka Superfly (1972)
• Supergirl (1984)
• Superman Returns (2006)
• Surf’s Up (2007)
• Tears of the Sun (2003)
• The Fighter (2010)
• The Rezort (2015)
• The Time Traveler’s Wife (2009)
• Troy (2004)
• Unaccompanied Minors (2006)
• The Water Horse: Legend of the Deep (2007)
• Wet Hot American Summer (2001)
• White Christmas (1954)
• Who’s That Knocking at My Door (1967)
• Winter’s Bone (2010)
• xXx (2002)
• xXx: State of the Union (2005)
• Zombieland (2009)

*This list is not for every region.

You Season 1 – Review

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“You” Season 2 premieres Dec. 26 on Netflix. So here is the review of it’s season 1.

“YOU” is an American psychological thriller series developed by Greg Berlanti and Sera Gamble. The first season is based on the eponymous 2014 novel titled YOU by Caroline Kepnes.
“YOU” is a show that most certainly captures the essence of the complexity of love and the lengths that some are able to go for it. It is undoubtedly thrilling, keeping me stressed out about what will happen next. It’s also incredibly good at warming ones heart. You’ll find yourself both loving Penn Badgley as Joe (protagonist), and his kind heart and selflessness, but also hating his guts.
“You do bad things for the people you love but it doesn’t mean it’s right. It is because love is more important” . This is what Joe, the main character in the series, said to a little kid after he did something ‘bad’. It somehow sums up what the series is all about.

It could be love that drawn Joe (Penn Badgley), a bookstore manager to Beck (Elizabeth Lail), a struggling new writer after he first saw her at the bookstore.

After a series of barely ignorable stalking from Joe, the series started like your usual cheesy romantic story but it turns out creepy and bloody as it continues to unravel before your eyes. Yes it could be love or could it be addiction?
In a sense the show is nothing less than breath-taking. The cinematography and acting are also great.
However the flaws that are causing me to wonder whether my time spent watching this show was worth it are a few poor plot decisions, some pretty unrealistic scenarios, and a pretty terrible ending. While Joe is a stalker, the lengths that he goes to, and things he’s able to get away with, are unnervingly unrealistic. He sneaks his way into houses to watch people, literally tip-toeing around them. Realistically he would most DEFINITELY, been seen or heard. And more importantly no one would go to these lengths to stalk someone. His relationship with Beck, the main love interest, is very enthralling and profound, yet it feels like it was dragged on until the very end of the season for no reason. Seriously. The writer(s) even made them take a little break for two episodes just so they could prolong the season which ended incredibly anticlimactically. They have already milked the hell out of the whole “look at me I’m a murderer who can’t be caught” thing, and realistically he would have most definitely been caught for at least a few of them. The murdering spree is basically definitely going to be continued based on the way the first season ended. He killed what seemed to be the love of his life, eliminating the intimacy and real ness between the two that had been building through the whole season, which leaves me with little excitement for the second season.
All in all, this series had me pretty interested throughout its entirety, and if you’re looking for a show that hits both the categories of a romance and a thriller/horror, then this one does so pretty adequately.

Few unrealistic details and a plot that could use some work but if you’ve got the time I’d definitely recommend giving it a watch.

The Witcher- Netflix review

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The Witcher is a Polish-American fantasy drama web television series created by Lauren Schmidt Hissrich for Netflix. It is based on the book series of the same name by Polish writer Andrzej Sapkowski. The series premiered on Netflix on December 20, 2019.
The characters and storyline managed to grip me throughout the entire season and I enjoyed every minute of it. The casting seemed almost perfect and now, some of the characters seem like they could never be acted by anyone else.
The storyline might seem confusing and wild at first and takes time to figure out and connect with it but once I did, I loved it. I came to realize that this wildness and difference from any other show is what makes it The Witcher – and I didn’t come to watch a remake of game of thrones, so I loved it. They delve into excellent and unique ideas and plots that make the show something definitely worth watching.

The strength of this series really relies on the cast and the writers. It is truly refreshing to see a group of people who all seem to really love what they’re doing and be putting so much effort into their performances.

Henry Cavill is spectacular as the iconic Geralt of Rivia and expands on previous iterations of the character, making the role his own while still staying true to all the aspects that makes the character so great.

He does an amazing job in his role and his performance was one of the focal points that I enjoyed in the show.

The supporting characters and two other leads (Anya Chalotra as Yennefer of Vengerberg and Freya Allen as Princess Cirilla) all bring this fantasy world to life with very real performances that remind us that they don’t have to be saving the world from an apocalyptic danger for their stories to hold true dramatic weight, and that’s also a testament to the great writing this series has.

The backdrop of conquest, war, and apocalyptic prophecy was well balanced with Geralt’s daily routine of monster hunting, a task his kind was designed to do as a Witcher. I’d add that the magical effects were also perfectly done. They were both subtle and effective.
The combat in this series is beautifully done. The scenes with Geralt fighting enemies with the camera panning him from the back is cinematography at it’s finest, along with the very gory, explicit kill scenes, all tying into the dark fantasy world. The sword fights all seemed realistic and natural, along with the powerful but not over powered magic.
My only criticism is that it can be difficult to follow at times when it jumps around to different points in time, even for someone familiar with the lore. However, paying closer attention pays off, and re-watching certain scenes can be both rewarding and productive. Though I’d humbly suggest that Hissrich include some date annotation going forward – and trust that it won’t detract from the story.
In summary, the first season is off with a bloody, sardonic, and immensely satisfying start. It’s a masterfully crafted and acted adaptation, and I have little doubt that it will become massively popular as it continues. Personally, I can’t wait to see where it goes from here.
Do keep in mind, the timeline in the episodes are not linear so keep an eye out for the obvious hints that will help you make the connection.
Really excited for the upcoming season.

Pond’s White Beauty spotless fairness | Review

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Pros

Instant fairness and glow
Flowery scent
Thick texture
Affordable
Easy to carry
Good for oily skin
Non greasy, non oily
Light weight

Cons

Not suitable for dry skin

Claims

Brighten up millions of your dark and damaged cells. With Pro-Vitamin B3, one of the most powerful ingredients to boost radiance, this Day Cream is clinically proven to help your dark spots fade while providing a powdery, matte finish.

My experience

I bought Pond’s white beauty spotless fairness 25g for pkr. 275 (price may vary) from green valley, mall of Lahore. It has a very nice sturdy packaging, a plastic jar and a pink coloured lid which makes it easy to use and is travel friendly as well.

The cream has a mousse like texture which feels incredibly soft. The cream is pink in colour but casts a pinkish white colour when applied giving your skin a pinkish touch which looks absolutely good and fresh. It has a nice flower fragrance. I fell in love with this product as it mattifies my oily skin and controls the oil for about 3, 4 hours even then only my t zone gets a bit oily whereas rest of my face remains oil free.
It gives an instant fairness which fades after 3, 4 hours. I sometimes use it as an alternative for my base. It quickly dries on the skin so you have to move your hands fast. It provides UV protection too.

Although it does not lightens your skin complexion it definitely brightens your skin tone and gives an instant fairness too which is more than enough in such a low price.

Will I recommend it?

Yes, I will definitely recommend it as Pond’s white beauty spotless fairness has Pro-Vitamin B3 + Multiple UV Protection which gently brightens your skin tone giving it a pinkish white radiance and a matte finish within a very affordable price.

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Everybody hurts

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There comes a point in life when you look back and see how happy you were and how much doing little things meant to you. All of it feels like a dream as if your every moment passed in just a blink of an eye and you no longer stand where you used to or enjoy things like the way you used to anymore. If only there is a way of getting that spark back in your life.
People. . . they always hurt. If you expect something from people, there is a strong possibility of you getting hurt. You can’t change those people because they mean so much to you so, you bear everything just for the sake of those people. They disappoint you in ways you never thought but still you don’t take them as a threat to your personality because come on you’re still not over their charms so you give them more time. You are on stage 1 now where you think they will change because YOU can’t get over them. You think of their selfish and hurtful behaviour of coping with things you might have done or said so you start blaming yourself for their wrong doings.
Now you’re tired of getting hurt. So, you use your brain and think of where the problem lies. Yes, you’re thinking right but no let’s hang around for a bit more and get a clear idea of things as the people patch up and change for some time and emotionally abuse you. So you think of giving them a second chance. Now you’re on stage 2. Congratulations !
After 2,3 days of their sudden change they’re back to their original personality and now they have evolved ! Yes, before only you used to blame yourself for their wrong doings NOW they too blame you ! It’s totally okay because YOU gave them this courage and right to do all these things to you in the first place. Now, you’re completely broken and hurt. No feelings and enthusiasm left in you.

You do things in your life not to enjoy them but because you HAVE to . You don’t feel happy anymore, nothing makes you happy. To your amazement those people will blame you for behaving like a dead person as YOU are ungrateful. Now, you’re on stage 3.
Not feeling happy, no enthusiasm, feeling hollow and sad all the time this is the new version of you only because you chose to stay with those people in the first place and you gave them the right to emotionally DESTROY you completely.
Now you have two ways from here, either you stay with them and prioritize yourself ONLY, focus on yourself and don’t rely on them in any way or you walk away from their lives for the sake of your mental health and peace. The choice is yours.
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L’oreal Paris 6 Oil Nourish, Oil in Cream, Oil Replacement cream | Review

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How to use L’oreal Oil in Cream Oil Replacement Cream

This multi-use formula cream can be used
Prewash : Leave for 30 minutes on hair and rinse off for ultimate softness.
Post Wash Styling : Apply on lengths and tips to keep your hair manageable and protected all day.
Overnight : Massage on scalp and hair and leave it overnight for intense nourishment.

Pros of L’oreal Paris Hair Expertise 6 Oil Nourish Oil in Cream Oil Replacement Cream

Travel safe.
Easy to use and gorgeous packaging.
It’s creamy consistency makes it really easy to apply.
It can be used in 3 different ways.
Makes the hair really soft, smooth and reduces tangles.
Contains 6 amazing hair oils – Argan Oil, Almond Oil, Jojoba Oil, Olive oil, Coconut oil and Camelina oil
Contains UV filters as per claim.
Affordable price.
Easily available.

Cons of L’oreal Paris Hair Expertise 6 Oil Nourish Oil in Cream Oil Replacement Cream

Contains mineral oils, alcohol and strong artificial fragrances.
Does not make my hair frizz free.
Doesn’t last long since I require quite a lot of product per usage.
So many harmful chemicals.

My review

I bought L’oreal oil replacement cream from green valley, mall of Lahore for pkr. 640 (prices may vary).
Loreal Oil Replacement Cream comes in a beautiful golden shiny tube packaging. It has a flip open lid making it rather travel friendly. It has 6 oils namely Argan Oil, Almond Oil, Jojoba Oil, Olive oil, Coconut oil and Camelina oil.

It has a quite strong fragrance and found it really unpleasant as it bothers me. The fragrance stays in my hair for some hours and then it fades away but so does the ‘MAGIC’ it does. L’oreal Oil replacement cream is white in colour and has a very creamy consistency but it appears colourless when applied. It does not feel greasy at all neither it makes your hair sticky once it dries but the frizz doesn’t go away for long.
If you apply it prewash and then post wash too, the results will be better but I would not suggest buying it as an oil replacement as it does not work like one. It helps in detangling the hair and makes them smooth.

Will I recommend it?

No, I will not recommend it even though it is a non greasy and non sticky oil replacement cream it has a lot of harmful chemicals which can do more harm than good in the long run. It does not control my frizz for more than 5-6 hours neither it makes my hair 3× shinier 😊.

Makeup Revolution Pro Illuminate Highlighter | Review

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Need more sparkling dazzle in your life? Well then go for this makeup revolution pro illuminate highlighter. The champagne gold pan is absolutely gorgeous but it looks even better when applied. This highlighter seriously makes you look glowy like a blinding glow and is by far my favourite highlighter.

Pros

Pocket friendly

Highly pigmented

Long staying power

Does not settle in pores

Huge pan

Feels so soft and velvety not powdery

No fall out

Not at all glittery

Cons

It has parabens

Not suitable for all skin tones

I bought this highlighter for Rs.800 (price may vary) from alfateh centaurus mall, Islamabad. It comes in a huge round slim pan. I love ♥️ the packaging and find it quite travel friendly as well.
Texture is quite smooth, soft and velvety. It feels so nice to even touch it 😍. It does not make you look powdery. It has a subtle glow not glittery at all which gives your face a nice sheen.

It has a nice champagne gold colour which looks great and has a transparent flip top lid. It is super pigmented but does not highlight your pores, which is a big thumbs up from me. It is buildable so you can use it to give you a more natural soft glow or that blinding glow too.

Neither its chalky and nor it’s powdery so it does not fall out. It is quite blendable as it has smooth buttery texture. Sometimes you just want to touch highlighter to feel its buttery smoothness. Lol.

It has a great long staying power. It stays on my face for about 5-6 hours without fading. It is so smooth and looks so nice that I swipe a little over my blush too for a nice glow.

Will I recommend makeup revolution Pro illuminate highlighter?

Yes, I will definitely recommend makeup revolution pro illuminate highlighter as it subtle yet completely stunning and will last throughout your life.

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DMGM studio look mega volume mascara | Review

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If you want to buy a mascara, apply it on one of your eyes and then notice the difference . If it changes the look of your face then you should give it a try.

I bought this DMGM studio look mega volume mascara for PKR 1395 (price may vary) from green valley, mall of Lahore. It is quite affordable. It comes in a nice a black and golden packaging. The tube is long, quite thick and sturdy. I liked the packaging as it is easy to hold and use.

A lengthening, paraben free and affordable mascara that instantly adds volume to lashes (without clumps) to give you a very beautiful wide-eyed effect. It is long lasting and smudge proof but not water proof. It is opthalmologically tested too.
I’m not exaggerating when I say this mascara does wonders for not only my lashes but also my entire face. It totally changes the appearance of my face.

The bristles were soft and bushy evenly coating each and every lash with pitch black pigment giving a very intense look. My lashes tripled in volume and length. The formula was thick but didn’t clump and harden, separately lengthening the lashes making my eyes look bigger. Although it did flake after some time but the quantity was very small.
It is not water proof so you have to be careful after applying it. It did not smudge the whole day and stayed the same all day. Also it is quite easy to take it off.
Let your lashes dry between coats for extra volume. I also suggest that you take out less quantity of the product so you won’t apply a lot of it in one single coat making it look chunky. Apply the mascara on your upper lashes first and from there, you can also brush the mascara onto your lower lashes. The bushy bristles move around the lower lash line perfectly without causing any annoying smudges or chunkiness.
You will surely get nice compliments after using this mascara. This mascara really gives you a false lash effect and you would love using it.

Would I recommend it?

Yes, I would buy it again as it gives mega volume to the lashes and is paraben free. Apart from some flakiness it is a very good mascara in such an affordable price.

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10 wise Carl Jung quotes for a better understanding of yourself

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Carl Jung was a famous swiss psychoanalyst and is the founder of anaytical psychology. He was a psychiatrist too. Psychoanalytical psychology is based on the individual’s psyche and the importance of wholeness for each individual.

Important concepts of psychoanalytical psychology are individuation, the collective unconscious the personal unconscious, archetypes, complexes, the persona, the shadow, the anima and animus, and the self.

Today I’m going to share some wise quotes of Carl jung here for a better understanding of yourself and the people around you.

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Herbella Face glow mist | Review

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Herbella professional therapy is a Pakistani haircare, skin care and therapeutic scented candles brand. It is an online brand yet so you can get their products online through their facebook page or instagram. They ship all over Pakistan.

I was quite skeptical of trying their products at first as it is a new brand therefore I wasn’t quite sure. But my love of organic products forced me to try their products. So I tried their FACE GLOW MIST. Quite frankly it did not disappoint me.

Pros

Pocket friendly
Organic
Zero side effects
Does not clog pores
Has a nice rosy fragrance
Gives a very natural glow
Does not make skin oily
No artificial shine added
Feels very light and refreshing on skin
It has a nice golden shade
No breakouts
Nice spray nozzle
Easy to carry
Water-like consistency
Softens and soothes skin
Paraben free
Keeps skin hydrated
Can be used as a primer
Adds a nice dewy finish to my makeup.

Cons

Still trying to find one 😂

Herbella Face Glow Mist claims to give your skin Vitamin C nourishment and helps unclog pores. It brightens skin as well and can be used as a toner. It is paraben free. It has a rose scent as it is made with rose water.
Herbella face glow mist is quite affordable as one 100 ml bottle is of 650 pkr. The herbella face flow mist comes in a nice clear plastic spray bottle.

The bottle has the information of how to use it. It is quite sturdy and easy to carry around. All the products used in this face glow mist are totally organic so they have no side effect on the skin. It is best for dull, dry and flaky skins.
Herbella face glow mist has a rose scent but the scent dissipates after a while which is a good thing. The product gives your skin a nice healthy glow as it claims. Vitamin C used in this face glow mist leaves your skin looking vibrant. It has a nice golden shade and has a water like consistency. Nothing can go wrong in an all organic genuine beauty product !!

The formulation is so lightweight and hydrating. I was in doubt that it would give my skin a greasy look as I already have an oily skin but it did not !! It is quite comfortable to wear and does not give that sticky feel behind. It brightens your skin also as it prevents tanning of face. Herbella face glow mist works best for all skin types.
You can use it under your foundation as a primer or for like setting your makeup too. It did not make me break out at all. So it’s a good product to buy.

Would I recommend it?

Overall it is a fantastic product and I would definitely buy it again 😊.

Want to stay FOREVER HAPPY in your relationship?

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Want to know how to have a happy, satisfied and a life long relationship?

Life is all rainbows and unicorn when you fall in love and like spending time with your loved one. You want to be with that someone every second of the day. You like everything they do or say but you have to work for the relationship once the rainbows and unicorns starts to disappear and you notice your partners flaws and bad behaviour, if you want your relationship to continue happily.

Dr. John Mordecai Gottman is a researcher, clinician, award winning speaker, author and a professor emeritus in psychology who did a vast research work on improving the relationships and prevention of behaviours that can destroy a relationship. He concluded four behaviours that mostly predict a couple’s divorce. These four behaviours slowly eat your relationship, destroying it and eventually pushing the couple for a divorce. You won’t know and slowly these behaviours will put your relationship to an end, a dead end.
Here are the Gottman’s four negative behaviour

Criticism

When in a relationship it’s natural for the couple to dislike some behaviours of the other partner. So to clear things out, they talk about it and get to a conclusion. Arguments happen in a relationship. But a relationship gets toxic and impossible to handle when there is criticism on the personality is involved. If one partner criticizes the personality of the other partner like how do you talk or laugh or walk, the other partner will most likely get hurt and attack back and it will lead to a heated argument. So for a happy relationship avoid criticizing your partners personality.

Contempt

Gottman considered this the worst of the four behaviours. Contempt is the most important predictor of a divorce. Gottman called it as ‘sulphuric acid for love’. One can sense the level of destruction this one behaviour can cause from this statement. The contemptuous partner feels superior and show their contempt by correcting your grammar or pronunciation of a word during a talk, mock the other partner and have a hostile humour. In short a contemptuous person disrespects their partner and people don’t like being disrespected.

Defensiveness

If you attack your partner naturally they will get defensive and retaliate in a way you won’t like either. Most probably they will blame you for the reason of every fight as you pointed out something generating an argument. They will save themselves and paint you as the bad guy.

Stonewalling

Stonewalling is emotional withdrawal from interaction as one partner criticized the other partner and they have built an imaginary wall just for the sake of avoiding them during an argument . They refuse to communicate to the other partner during an argument. They develop this habit just to avoid the argument. They don’t react at all, totally blocking to be a part of that argument.

This article is not for self diagnosis purpose. This article is just for a general information. I hope you liked the article.

How to get rid of toxic people

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“Negative people can only infest you with discouragements when they find you around… Just get lost and get saved!” Israelmore Ayivor

We can find toxic people in our daily lives. Most of us encounter toxic people either at our workplace, in iur daily lives or we have relationship with a toxic person. People who drain our energies, non supportive, emotional abusers and back stabbers are mostly known as toxic people or negative people. They make us feel bad intentionally. Whether they do it because of their insecurities or their need to feel superior, they still end up hurting us in order for them to feel satisfied.

Toxic people are not hard to find as they have certain tendencies by which they are easy to locate. Some of the signs of toxic people are written below;
Their selfishness can be spotted anywhere. They are quite selfish, always putting their needs before others needs.
They are generally insecure. These insecurities can of because of anything or either any person.
They are egoistic and thismakes them to feel that they’re always right as they think they’re far more superior than others so everyone should listen to them.
They often mislead you. Try to twist things to make you depressed or anxious about things important to you.
They never appreciate others, as to toxic people only they are perfect.
Toxic people are not nice to others. Never say nice things to people and never cherish their feelings.
They are attention seekers and can lie to get that attention. They love creating drama and getting all the attention.
They are never straight forward. Talk to a toxic person and they will never give you a straight answer.
They are manipulators. They manipulate people and situations as they like to feel superior so they have the urge to control others. In their mind people should follow them without doubting them.
Everyone deserve supportive, loving and people who they like to spend time with. People with an over flowing negativity make sure to pour that negativity in our lives too. A small chat with a toxic person can make you feel bad about yourself. They have a tendency to lower your morales that you might end up locking your room and think about your useless existence for hours.

There are ways to put a stop to the nonsense of toxic people and live your life your way.

Speak up
First and foremost step is to speak up for yourself. No one has the right to put you down in any way. If you find someone saying something that you’re uncomfortable with just tell them to stop right on their faces before they take advantage of your inability to say no. Convey them that they should not take you for granted. Tell them to go somewhere else and pour out their negativity as you’re not interested in talking to them unless they have something good, reasonable or logical to talk about. Never ever let anyone take advantage of you or your position.

Do not become a victim
Never indulge in any negative conversation with a toxic person. If you tell them about any person chances are they will most likely spread it making you look bad.
They might manipulate you into gossiping so stay away from them and avoid having long conversations with them.

Avoid a toxic person
The best way to avoid a toxic person is by not interacting with them at all and avoiding them at all cost. The less you interact with them, the less they will feed you their negativity and you will live a peaceful and happy life.

A word of advice is to always be with the people who love you and who you love. Surround yourself with positive people and their positive energy will make you happy and lively too. Spread love, happiness and positivity. Enjoy your life.

Know the type of your dream

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Ever dreamt that you were with the one you love the most at some place which is beyond the definition of beautiful?

Or dreamt of being in an exam hall where you run out of time but you didn’t know the answers to the questions anyway.

A dream where you find yourself at an unimaginable serene place not less than heaven or a dream of being United with your family?

Indeed, we all see dreams while we sleep every now and then and in order to understand ourselves better it is important to know our dreams.
It is safe to say that dreams can be categorized into 3 major types, knowingly:
1) Holy/Spiritual dreams
2) Desires/Wants
3) Thoughts/Memories

The first kind of dreams are rare to occur but holds great meaning in them. Seeing God in a dream or watching oneself in heavenly place can be examples of such category. It is believed that these kinds of dreams are highly positive and true but people can hardly understand the hidden messages they hold.

The second type of dreams, which are the desires and wishes of an individual, are more common to occur as we tend to constantly wish for things and it gets imprinted into our subconscious at some time. Thus, seeing a loved one or partner in a dream is merely depiction of our desires which takes the form of visuals in our sleep. Sometimes desires and thoughts are interchangeable and related which makes it harder to separate desires from thought-form of dreams.

Finally, the third type is the most recurring and common type of dreams. Our brain functions round the clock and is never free of thoughts. Thoughts can be memories or current phenomenon. But they get hold of greater part of our dream formation. A person going through break-up is likely to see glimpses of past memories re-enacted in their dreams. Such type of dreams are also a coping mechanism for stress and depression.

Dreams are naturally occurring phenomenon which can not be explained properly by any individual because it has unique value and experience for each individual just like love has.

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Mother’s Day Special

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Thank you all for taking out some time to read my article. I genuinely appreciate it. I love my mother the most and try to be like her but if I turn out to be a fraction of her I would consider that as my achievement. I, being a mom, love my kid to bits. I would do and can do anything for him. These are the same thoughts and feelings of every mom around the globe. They always put their children ahead of themselves. Some days are just better than the others where you struggle less, but every day is a new struggle for them to make the world best for the small people they have created (that would be our children). Your efforts can never go unnoticed.
Mothers build a whole new generation. Mothers are the building blocks of the society. Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, you all deserve a noble prize for doing such a good work.

None of you applied for this job, you just got one and even though you guys never had any prior experience and any prior knowledge about it, you still are acing it. This job doesn’t need a degree neither you’ll have defined work hours. You have to work round the clock without any pay or incentive. You will have to sacrifice your sleep, your body figure, peace, appearance and sanity at times. You would do anything and everything for your children. In my religion, a mother has the highest place.
We think mothers have some kind of super powers because they make miracles happen. It’s not true but I being a mother know that I would go to any length to make things right for my baby and keep him happy no matter the cost.
I always thought motherhood would be very easy but oh boy was I wrong. Lol. It is without a doubt the toughest job in the world. Can you imagine being pooped on, being vomitted on and still would stay that way to clean the other person before you?? No you won’t. But this is the charm of being a mother, you put your needs and desires second and your baby always first !
There is no criteria of being a great mom. In my view, every mom is a great mom. Sometimes the kids get on our nerves but still we want them to be happy. We love watching them grow, play and explore the world. Motherhood is a unique experience for everyone but never take your mother for granted. Spend quality time with her, make her feel special and do everything for her that she would have done for you. Let’s not forget what our mothers have done for us. Now it’s our duty to make them happy. We cannot and should not limit ourselves to just this one day instead we should give them time more often and make them happy and feel needed. What we’ll do today for our mothers, tomorrow our children will do the same for us.
In the end I would like to say that no doubt motherhood is a quite challenging and demanding job yet we all mothers try our best to give our best. I am so grateful for having the best mom and I try to be the best mom to my baby boy. Wishing you all a happy mother’s day. You all are doing a great job and everybody knows that by now. Cherish these moments and pray for me and my family.
Dedicated to all mothers. I hope you liked the article 😊

He was never into you

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Do you ever wonder if he truly belongs to you? What if all his cute little acts are just memories of his past that he tends to renact with you? Would you feel comfortable with his divided love for you or would you rather walk away? The answer depends on how much can you endure!

He was all that love a woman asks for: Paying attention, calling cute names, doing little acts of love and even talking about building a family.
Seems promising, right? But the twist comes when you give in yourself to him emotionally and he senses the threat of you walking away is near to impossible. So he changes. He changes emotionally and totally. You complain, fight, cry and finally get depressed with the whole situation. Eventually you find out from his friends that he is in touch with his ex. And whatever lil’ acts of love from him were already spent well enough with the ex to become memories which he used as his medicine by re-living, to get through the pain of distance from his ex. He never was over her. Infact he was never into you !

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Salaam Ramadan !

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Ramadan is a holy and sacred month for Muslims. It is one of the five pillars of Islam. There are some things I would like to share about ramadan with all of you.

In this month the Muslims feel the pain and hardships of poor people.
Ramadan comes once every year. Ramadan comes every year at different dates because of the lunar calendar. As the dates change so does the length of the fast. A fast starts after the fajar azaan, before sunrise and ends at maghrib azaan, after the sun sets. In ramadan Muslims all over the world abstain from eating, drinking, immoral behaviour, bad deeds and having sexual relations during their fast.
Waking up before sunrise to eat something which would make you full enough to spend the whole fast with that food is called sehri. Some people don’t do sehri at all and spend the whole fast on their dinner and some get up early and eat. But all have to close their fast before hearing the fajar azan with a sehri prayer.
Muslims don’t eat anything at all during their fast neither they drink anything not even water. Neither they use foul language or get angry as it against to do such in ramadan.
As Islam has a flexibility for children, women, older people and ill people so it happens in ramadan as well. Fasting is not obligatory to the children who haven’t reached adolescence yet. The same goes for pregnant women and ill people. Women in their time of the month are also exempted from fasting for only those days. No one forces you to fast although it is farz in Islam to fast once you reach puberty but no one does and can force the other to fast as forcing the religion is not permissible in Islam. But if the children want to fast, the adults let them fast for half day and call it a mock half day fast.
Eating, drinking or having sexual relation during your fast invalidates it.

Muslims open their fast on maghrib azaan, it’s called iftar, with an iftar prayer and start with a date usually or they can open with anything sweet. Then they can eat anything they want to till sehri again.

After iftar they have an additional prayer called tarawih. The whole Quran is being recited in tarawih within a month. Gents offer tarawih at mosque in congregation and the ladies can do it either at mosques or at their homes.
At then end of ramadan Muslims are rewarded in the form of eid for fasting for one month and staying away from all the bad deeds.
I’ll discuss eid in some other article. I hope you find this article informative.

‘Bandersnatch’ Review

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This is my review of this movie and it can be different from others.
Bandersnatch was released on Dec 28, 2018 on Netflix. It’s an interactive movie by Black Mirror.

It makes you feel like as if you’re the director of the movie but you’re not. You’re only given two choices and you have to choose from them. If you make the right choice, according to the author, you’ll move to the next level. On making a wrong choice the movie will start from the part where you made the wrong choice, just like a game.
You can somewhat control the character named Stefan, who in the movie is a game programmer of making such choosing the options type games.
The interesting thing I found in the movie was that the other character always gave Stefan the choice of options but the character emphasized on a certain action more so Stefan would select that choice and the movie will move forward. If he does the opposite, the movie ends abruptly and you have to start over again from the wrongly opted option part.
Bandersnatch gave me a feeling of being stuck in a time dimension loop and you have to repeat the whole procedure in order to make things right, they way they’re programmed in the movie. This was the part I did not like at all. They must have stories for all the options other than abrupt endings. So every viewer will have a different ending. So Bandersnatch did not offer much choices.
Another interesting part was of Colin who somehow remembered that he saw Stefan somewhere. You have to be really attentive to know the codes the characters give in their dialogues.
First I selected to take the tuckersoft jobs and it ended the movie right there. Not good bandersnatch not good.
Then I chose to pour tea on the computer as I did not like shouting on the dad but guess what? This is what they wanted. My movie again ended.
Then everything was going fine the next time and I did even shouted at dad, did not want to though, but still I destroyed the computer. This time I was so annoyed and my brain was about to give up but I really wanted to end the movie so I gave it another last try.
I reached dead ends three times. Almost gave up and then followed the codes completely believing that I’m not the one in control and got to the end. Voila!
Although I did not take the LSD I somehow did. Weird but I so wanted to end the movie and made Stefan jump. Lol. I killed him. Even when he jumped I thought they might make me do it all again but gladly they did not.
I believe from I have heard there are five endings to the movie. No matter what you chose, the movie is quite exhausting. The starting over again part annoyed me.
I would not recommend it to any mom though. But if you have time and you want to play a weird game then go for it.

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A thing of beauty is not joy for everyone !

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Don’t you love a new baby and feel like holding him? No doubt babies are a beautiful blessing from God. Some people get way more excited like over the moon for having one and think their life got perfect after the new addition to the family. Then there are women who get deeply depressed after having a baby which makes then unable to bond with their new baby. Its not something we WANT to feel but some of us feel it anyway.
I had my first baby 22 months ago through a normal delivery and I thought after having him I would be the happiest, my life would be perfect. I would love my baby more than anything else. My baby boy was born at 5pm . I was so happy to see him for the first time. I touched him and kissed him. I loved looking at my little bundle of joy. But things took a drastic turn for me the next day when I took him home with me.

He was a very difficult baby to start. He did not sleep at night and even in the day time our whisper was enough to wake him up. I could not sleep at all. Every time I try to sleep his cries would wake me up. On the other hand I was not willing to let anyone do his work. I would check his diaper a million times. Even if he was asleep at times I could not make myself sleep. I would never leave my house without him pooping. If he poops again outside I would panic so much that people around me got anxiety themselves.
I was stressed beyond limits. I was seriously thinking of giving him to someone who would take care of him and needed a baby. In my mind I was sure that “this baby has made my life difficult and he is the reason of my sadness and unable to enjoy any occasion or anything at all”.

Most of the time I was sad and crying. My baby was not bonding with me neither I was feeling attached to my baby like a mother should. He would cry his lungs out after my touch and I was not able to calm him down. My mom or my husband helped me but still I was not enjoying MOTHERHOOD. It still hurts me to think of my reaction towards my baby after his cries. Breastfeeding him was a nightmare for me. I was feeling bound. I was taking care of my baby as if it was part of my job, just do the task without any feeling. I totally neglected my appearance.
I shared my feelings with my mom but she told me to keep it together and helped me with everything. She would make me meet other moms and they shared their motherhood experiences saying that it’s normal. My mom counselled me about motherhood and I shared everything with her. Then my husband helped me deal with these issues.
I got out of this phase after 9 months of my baby’s birth and started enjoying my life with my baby. My mom and my husband helped me get out of that phase. I did not know why I was feeling like this and what is this disorder. Most of the new mothers don’t know it either. I thought I should educate them from my personal experience so they could relate to it and get help.
After some time I got to know about POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION and I was glad to know that I got out of it with the help of my loved ones. So yes postpartum depression is real and it eats the mind of the new mother.
If any of you out there is going through this phase or know someone who is, please help her out because she needs help.
Help her out with her baby, encourage her to talk about her feelings. Take her out more often. Support her. Always always take her to a counsellor if things don’t get better otherwise her situation might get worse.
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Mothers, the unpaid labours

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Labours day is a holiday when we honour the working men and women around the world for their services. Every working person thinks of it as a day off, to relax and to enjoy, gather their energy. But there are some labours which work 24/7 even on a labours day and they don’t even get paid for it in cash. No doubt they get paid in the form of unconditional love but no money for the hard work they do neither they ever demand anything in return. Yes, all of you must have guessed by now. I am talking about a MOTHER. A strong women who works round the clock and without any break. A mother doesn’t even get paid for the services she provides. They have the most toughest job in the world. She sacrifices her sleep, peace and time, everything for her children. She is always on duty working and is always available for her children.
On labour day when everyone waits for the holiday and enjoys it, there are mothers still working and giving time to their children. On this labours day we all should be grateful of such mothers who are raising a whole new generation and helping us build a better tomorrow without demanding anything in return preforming the biggest duty.
On this labours day I want to thank all of the mothers for the hard labour you do. I salute all the mothers on this labours day for their unpaid services, their sacrifices and their efforts. Happy labours day ! Xoxo

Best and affordable brow pomade. Zhoosh brow pomade | Review

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Zhoosh is a first Pakistani premium mink eyelash brand. They make brow pomades too. It doesn’t have any on ground outlet so you have to order their products online. Their delivery service is fast.

I ordered zhoosh brow pomade from their website @zhooshmeup in a discount bundle deal of pkr 2050. They delivered the products in a nice shiny golden packet.

The bundle included a zhoosh brow pomade, zhoosh dual ended eyebrow brush which has a spoolie brush at one end and an angled eyebrow brush at the other end and a zhoosh tweezer. Their brow pomades are available in 5 shades. Butterscotch, mocha, fudge, dark chocolate and cinnamon. The shade range is limited though but these are the most suitable colours for Pakistani skin tones. I ordered the mocha coloured brow pomade.

It has a rich and creamy fat free formula which is highly pigmented. It glides on smoothly. It depends on you whether you want to give a natural look to your brows or a dramatic look, it works both way. It has a buildable coverage.

It is water proof and smudge proof. It doesn’t budge at all.

I have the most oily skin and it works best for me. It works for all skin types. I use it daily and even the next morning it was still there and intact. So yes you would totally want to have it and trade it for your Anastasia Beverly hills dip brow pomade. It gives such a natural look to your eyebrows that you don’t need any eyebrow gel on your brows to set them.

Same thing just less pricey and the results are awesome. I bought this pomade like six months ago and it still is in use. So yes a little goes a long way.

However the zhoosh brush doesn’t do justice to the pomade. It isn’t as stiff as the sigma angled brushes are. So yes if you use some other brush the product will come out even better.

Will I buy it again?

Yes I’m waiting for this pomade bottle to end so I can get my hands on a new one may be a shade darker. Apart from its brush not being stiff to apply the pomade more sharply there is no cons in this pomade. It’s one of the best Pakistani brands and I am a fan of this brand already.
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Deal with your skin problems by using these all natural and easily available ingredients

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In this era of chemical infused skin and beauty products people search for organic methods to deal with their skin issues naturally so those products won’t be harmful to the person in any way.
I am sharing some of my tried and tested natural ingredients to get rid of my skin problems. You should try them too if you want to save your money, time and health making you naturally beautiful. You can give it a try as well.

1.Remove black heads naturally

Do this procedure when you won’t have any sunlight contact later. Cut a lemon in half and put 5 drops of raw honey on one half and rub it on your nose or any area where you have black heads. Leave it for 5 minutes and then wash it with cold water.

2. Dark skin pigmentation

Add potato and lemon juice together and apply on the area of pigmentation. Wash with cold water after 15 minutes. Apply it daily for best results .

3. Dark elbows and knees

Add 1 teaspoon of coconut oil and ½ teaspoon of lemon juice. Rub this solution on your dark elbows and knees, let it stay there for 20 minutes then clean it off with a cloth. Apply it once daily.

4. For dark lips

Use lemon juice with milk cream and apply it on your lips. Use glycerine on your lips daily.

5. For a natural exfoliation

For naturally exfoliating your skin use pineapple juice or tomato juice and apply it on your face with a cotton ball.

6. To get rid of pimples

Add 1 tsp of baking powder with water and make a thick paste. Apply it on your pimples, let it dry for 1 min or 2 min maximum and then wash your face.

7. To get rid of oil on the face

Add one egg white with one tsp of lemon juice and apply it on your face. Let the paste dry. Remove the paste with lukewarm water.

8. Get rid of puffy eyes

Get two tea bags, soak them in cold water and then put them in the refrigerator for some time. Take them out and put them on your eyes for 30 minutes. Remove them and wash your face with cold water.

9. To get rid of dark circles

Take some mint leaves, blend them and put the paste on your eyes for 10 minutes and then rinse your eyes.

10. Get rid of dry chapped lips

Put honey on your lips daily to moisturize them. Let the honey stay on lips for half an hour and then wash it with water but not with soap. Do it for a week and you’re lips will be better.

11. Get rid of cracked heels

Soak your feet in lukewarm, soapy water for 30 minutes, pat it dry, rub them with a scrubber and then put honey on the heels.

12. How to keep your skin hydrated

Use ½ cup of sugar and 2 tbsp of olive oil with 5 drops of lavender oil and apply it on your face, massage thoroughly and then wash it off with lukewarm water. For best results use it once daily.

13. How to get glowing skin

Use raw honey for this. Apply raw honey all over your face, let it set for 30 minutes and then wash it off with cold water. Doing it daily will show great results.

14. How to get a wrinkle free skin

Pour some drops of olive oil on your face. Massage it gently and leave it overnight. You’ll have a soft and fresh skin in the morning. Applying olive oil every night can reduce fine lines and wrinkles making you look young.
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World’s best oil control product, The Body Shop Tea Tree mattifying lotion

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I have a very oily skin and by very I mean for my T zone, sky is the limit. Lol. I try various oil and shine controlling products but this “The Body shop’s Tea Tree mattifying lotion” is by far the best and the only product which makes my skin shine proof and keeps it oil free for as long as I stay awake and literally the next day till I wash my face. So no more greasy oil situation on my face.
I bought if from The Body Shop outlet for $9 because they had a sale going on otherwise it was of $15. A little bit pricey for such a small bottle but it was worth it. The packaging is sturdy and travel friendly and it doesn’t leak from the lid as well.

The scent of this lotion is quite strong as it has a tea tree fragrance when you first put it on your face but it goes away after some seconds. The consistency of the lotion is very light weight and is transparent when applied and gives a cool sensation on application, your skin feels so smooth after applying it.

This product does what it claims, reduces oil and prevents shine. Neither it clog the pores. This lotion really mattifies the skin for a very long time but also keep it moisturized at the same time. It controls oil and shine for a long time and can be used as a makeup base. Foundation glides on it smoothly.

It claims that it clears acne and prevents blemishes too but according to my experience it did not prevent my blemishes and I can’t say anything about acne as I have an acne free skin already. It cleared my complexion though and made my skin look fresh.
$15 would be a little pricey for me as it comes in a very small bottle of 50ml but I got lucky and got it at $9😄 but the benefits are worth every penny.
The down part for me is that it dries down my under eye area so much that it irritated me and I apply a different moisturizer on it. But over all it controls my oil and shine and keeps them at bay.
The amazing part is I applied it at around 5pm and when I woke up the next day I still did not have any oil or shine on my face. I was completely astonished by this. I totally love it.

Would I recommend it?

Yes, I would recommend it but for the eye area part which gets dry you have to put some other moisturizer. Even if you put a moisturizer over it, it won’t make your skin oily. This is the only con I found in this lotion that it dried my under eye area but it is the only product that could control my oil and shine.
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Genuine simple ways to lose weight

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Weight loss is a very big problem for us ladies these days specially mommies and so many websites on the internet suggest such harmful methods and ways to lose weight that I had to come up with this topic. Diet can never let you keep your weight off for a very long time so dieting is not the answer to weight loss problem.
There is always healthy ways of doing certain things and weight loss is one of them. I will talk about genuine ways to lose weight efficiently and maintain it for like forever ! So let’s get started and share my knowledge with you guys.

Add flaxseeds in your diet

Flaxseeds are proven to speed up the weight loss. They contain fibre which keeps you feeling full.

Drink more water

Water keeps your hydrated and full for a very long time. It actually helps you lose weight by burning the calories for an hour after you drink water. Drinking water before and between meals also reduce your calorie intake. But NEVER drink water after you are done with your meal for at least half an hour.

Eat an apple everyday

As we know “An apple a day keeps the doctor away”. There must be some truth to this fact. Apple contains a special fibre called pectin that slows down digestions and keeps you full for a very long time. Hence, curbing your food cravings.

Add more proteins to your diet

Any food with high protein keeps you full for longer periods of time thus reducing your appetite. A protein diet boosts your metabolism and helps in burning more calories. Almonds, lean meat, poultry, cheese, yogurt, dairy, fish, beans, eggs and soy products have a high quantity of protein.

Take more vitamin D

Vitamin D aids in weight loss and decrease body fat. According to some researches, people with a high BMI have low level of vitamin D in their body. Mushrooms, salmons, oysters, cod liver oil, egg yolks are rich in vitamin D. You can also take vitamin D supplements.

Reduce your food intake of carbohydrated foods

After you reduce your carb intake, your body will gradually shed the water weight first and then it will start burning the calories and fats.
Don’t drink carbohydrated drinks, consume less bread, eat less potatoes, drink coconut or almond milk.

Say NO to processed food

Processed foods lack vitamins, proteins, fibres. They have a high sugar, sodium and fat content and increase your cholesterol level. All frozen, canned, baked and dried foods are processed foods. Cheese, cereals, microwave meals, ready meals, cakes, biscuits, and savoury snacks.

Add more fruits and vegetables to your diet

Fruits and vegetables are a healthy source of food. They keep you fresh and control your cholesterol too. They are rich in nutrients, vitamins, fibres and water. Fruits and vegetables are considered as good for weight loss. People who eat fruits and vegetables daily are comparatively healthier.

Add green tea in your daily regimen

Flavonoids in green helps speed up your metabolism and burn fat. It also helps in losing belly fat which is what people want most of the time. So enjoy the benefits of green tea by daily drinking it.
Avoid sugar
Sugar is as addicted is cocaine. It causes excessive weight gain and leads to other diseases as well. Sugar in every form is dangerous.

Use coconut oil more

Coconut oil speeds up your metabolism and burns your calories thus aiding in weight loss.

Take probiotics

Probiotics have lactobacillus and studies have shown that strains of lactobacillus burn belly fat and helps to lose weight. Yogurt is a probiotic which is good for burning belly fat.

Eat more fibres

Fibres keeps you full for a longer period of time, lowers your cholesterol and normalizes your blood sugar levels. Some fibre rich foods are pumpkins, chickpeas and apples.

Take whey protein supplement

Whey protein supplement reduces your appetite and burns fat causing you to lose weight.

Do cardio

Cardio exercises work very well for weight loss. You can start with a little walk first and then move to other exercises.

Watch less Television

Spend your time on televisions less because that’s how we end up eating more

Make a schedule

Make a daily routine schedule and follow it. Sleep early as eating late at night makes you gain weight more.

Eat healthy

One of the key factor of gaining weight is eating junks, which is not a healthy form of food. Eat vegetables, fruit, nuts etc.

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